Anthony

[skoolgrl1979]

Well, I told Wednes that I'd write about disciplining Anthony Ray in my post so I'll do that. Well, he's o nly two and I've spanked him THREE times. Once, I told him that I would NOT let him go outside until I finished my cig (this was after dinner). I know this sounds selfish but seriously, although smoking is wrong anyway he should be taught (

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[mason_le_flamme]

I don't think you're mean at all, you're just doing the best you can to raise your child, it's not like you got given a hand book and how to do this when you gave birth so just trust your instincts but remember, sometimes tough love is the best love

Come on

[absinthofheart]

Do not let your child walk over you. He is too young to think that he is in charge. If you don't dicipline to nip it in the bud it could get worse over time. I have too many friends whose kids were not disiplined and are now completely out of control. Have you ever seen those kids on Jerry Springer? You know the "I do what I want" kids? You don't want your kid to be like that. Spanking is not all together bad as long as you don't do it exessively. Also, reinforce it with the lesson to be learned. It is difficult to make them understand WHY they should not do certain things when they are that young. It is a tough age and you can only do your best. That does not make you a bad mommy. Don't worry.

[madush69]

One of the coolest things, as they get aroud 5 through 10 is how the phrase "I am disappointed in you." can totally crush 'em into submission. It worked for me when I was little, and luckily it has worked for a long time with Joe. Granted he'll be eleven (holy Christ) in January and whether or not we're disappointed in him may no longer matter to him. Taking away posessions has worked really well too. If Joe acts like an ass, he gets no videogames. If he acts like an ass, mauling the cat when she wants put down, he gets grounded from the cats. (He loves his cat very very much, but sometimes hugs her too long and she wants to bee let go to run around the apartment on her own terms)
Still a good whack in the ass every now and again surprises him into paying a bit more attention to what we're saying to him. It's more of an exclamation point on the message than being a message in and of itself. Seems to work, everyone tells us how cool he is. I don't know. I hope I've been some help.

Well...

[wednes]

I would suggest that totally crushing your kid into submission is not the right way to go. That creates a kid who is either desperate to please and dependent on others for constant validation, or a kid who doesn't give a rats ass what you (not YOU you, but the proverbial you) think.

Controlled spanking to teach a lesson is not violence. Uncontrolled hitting out of anger is. Time outs can be very effective, as can withholding toys, desserts, etc. I think any discipline that is consitent, and done with love is fine. And for the record, you are an amazing woman and a good mother.

[nate101000]

My mother always said it like this. Children have short attention spans. Spanking helps them remember. If you tell him not to go outside and he does, he isn't going to remember not to go outside because you tell him not to. but he will remember that his butt will be spanked if he disobeys.