Anew?

[skywalker57]

Hello again, it's been a while since my last post, so it seems like I should update. I think that I've found the definition of life: Irony. In my singleness, I've noticed a lot more of what really goes on at parties and the like. I'd like to think that I wouldn't do this, but I honestly don't know where my values lie in this, especially if I had

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[dramajock]

Man, I've read so many of those nice guys finishing last articles, and about just as many why chicks go for the bad guys articles, and the main recurring theme I've seen is change. They want to feel like they can change you for the better. Change you from the unobtainable to the obtainable. From the sloppy dresser to a sharp-dressed man. Take you to lessons from their own personal finishing school. Which clubs are more sought after to get into? The ones that admit everyone, or the ones that only admit the cream of the crop? Gotta act like you don't notice them, but make sure they notice you.

Love is sort of like a canoe race, and the assholes have a outboard motor.

[skywalker57]

Yeah, i know these types of posts are cliche, it's just that recently i've been noticing this trend getting more and more prevalent. Great analogy by the way.

[anonymous]

The girls that go for the asshole guys are just as bad as the asshole guys. Not worth your time- which is why they end up with the assholes you described instead of with amazing guys. So while it may suck a first glance, she/they actually saved you a lot of time, effort, emotion, and money that might have been spent figuring out that they were actually .

And on love- it's hard to remember what it was like in the begininng with someone... love grows it doesn't materialize. I don't think I've ever heard of a loving, lasting relationship that grew from people who met randomly at parties, either.

Spring Break should be awesome. We'll call you from some dive in Texas, drinking a beer we snuck into the bar with, wearing jeans and a cowgirl hat, in line for the mechanical bull- and you can tell me allll about what's going down in Nova.

Just Keep Swimming, Elyse

[nobodies_angel]

Reason why I am not friends with a lot of girls: they are stupid.

I think perhaps the reason these stupid girls end up with those asshole guys is because: 1) the guy is attractive and they think they can change him, or 2) they believe, whether they admit it or not, that they do not deserve better.

And even though my mother was/is a repeat offender, I still don't understand it. I guess age and maturity have nothing to do with it. I honestly do not know.

Nice guys do not always finish last. Nice girls don't either. I think it's more about having the patience to wait to find that nice girl/guy, rather than trying on relationships like dressing-room clothing and seeing which fits best. Perhaps I'm being a little biased in this, but I'm starting to think this is true.

She'll find you eventually, Chris. You're a treasure, and she'll be lucky to have discovered that.

--Tracie

[gothamgirl]

Chris,

The girls that go for those guys usually deserve them. They are walking right into a trap that they so often complain about! They say they want a nice honest guy but fail to mention that a polo shirt and cocky attitude is more important. Hopefully they'll learn from their mistakes, being that they make them over and over and over. Trust me, it's not only the guys friends who hear about it...

"I've been the "nice guy" all my life, the one that takes things in stride, or turns the other cheek and simply smiles. Should I stop?"No! You are likely to attract someone who has similiar values to yours. You want someone who'll love you for yourself, not the way your dress or your badass attitude. There are some girls out there more interested in the character of a guy then all that other background noise. You just have to be patient! Yeah I know, easier said than done. You don't want someone who only likes assholes, that's just not who you are and she therefore wouldn't be the right girl for you. Please don't change

Dont be so hard on your self

[guyver82]

Chris you area very cool guy, you should never change who you are never!!!!!! You have to remember that there are alot of girls out there, and to let you in on a little secret i learned this from my dad who is on his 4th engagment and soon to be wife. Threw my life he has showned me that were every you meet your specil lady friend is were she will stay for example. My dad being ex Navy drinks alot well used to know his body is punishing him for it. He has meet all of his wives in bars and threw the course of there whole relationship that is what has been the problem with it. You see your going out to these partys looking for girls ye ai know its a great place to meet people but alot of these girls, just want to have fun, now i could be wrong