Comments | slacker260: The scars inside have made you beautiful

slacker260

The scars inside have made you beautiful

Jun 15, 2004 19:09

So I just got off the phone with my dad. For the first time in a while we had a real conversation about things. Altho, the funniest thing was that after talking to him, i dont remember what sparked the tension between my parents. Well, i know why they aren't on the best of terms NOW, but they said things started in St Auggie. Well, techinically ( Read more... )

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anonymous June 15 2004, 17:10:51 UTC

I think the length of time it takes for us to heal emotionally/spiritually all depends how much we were involved with whatever and how badly we were hurt. i'd personally rather be physically injured than emotionally, i hate that feeling inside you get when you feel betrayed and scarred and just...lost almost, its the worst feeling in the world...

communication is definitely key, not just for a "couple", but for any relationship. I can't tell you how many times stupid shit has happened between my friends just because of a slight miscommunication.

slacker260 June 15 2004, 17:21:56 UTC

emotional and spiritual scaring can hurt longer, but is it only because we don't know how to deal with those kinds of pains as easily as we would a cut? for instance, a cut we instinctually know how to heal ourselves. but emotional wounds take time, since we don't know how to heal ourselves instinctually. which is why the mind becomes such an important factor in linking our spiritual and physicial realms

ADD leendiva June 15 2004, 17:21:20 UTC

It's good to hear you had an actual conversation with your dad. It's taken long enough definately.

I agree with all that you said. Communication is definately key, so, don't think for one minute when there's an argument that that means to just call it quits. You'll never get a perfect relationship. You've been in fights with ALL your friends and you figure it out somehow and you're still friends.

This post meant more to me than those long ones you post. I know you cherish those but because of my ADD I just get lost in the words. That's why I wasn't the person who said something about Willy Wonka because, I didn't even get that far. 3 paragraphs or I'm gone. ;)

mad love nerd.

Re: ADD slacker260 June 15 2004, 17:29:54 UTC

oh believe me, i know no relationship will ever be perfect. thats kinda where i was getting at in my ramblings. we can't look for the perfect relationship, since thats a false salvation that will only get us down when it reveals its true form. nothing is perfect. so we cant look for that perfect relationship, since it does not exist. we cannot achieve happiness with someone else, when we haven't yet found it within ourselves. there is nothing perfect that will bring us up and out, we have to do it in ourselves. its all about discarding the false lights, the false salvations, and finding it in ourselves

funny leendiva June 15 2004, 17:41:07 UTC

Weird cause I was talking about this with Chris and he and I are alike in the fact that neither he nor i can be without someone. we both feel the need to take care of someone else besides ourself. i don't know. i know it probably sounds stupid to you b/c that's not really how you are at all. But that's what it is for me. a need to feel like i'm making a difference in someone's life.

prettyflowers June 15 2004, 19:04:44 UTC

"You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly." ~Sam Keen

leendiva June 15 2004, 21:38:14 UTC

that's an amazing quote.

cane7323 June 16 2004, 08:55:41 UTC

Communication is key. But as far as our deep quest to find the answers to the questions we cant stop asking, all we're really doin is dwellin on the possiblities, what ifs, and what coula been's. When really, only time heals wounds, only time brings answers, only time can truly reveal to us the true nature of what it is we seek. No deep revalation can answer our questions. I think there can be no limit to the questions we can ask ourselves, but we'll never get answers we're lookin for if we dont put it all on the line and go for it in life. This guy's right, we dont have answers, we dont know a damn thing, i think its really because we're a bunch of snot-nose college kids who haven't even really begun to live life, thats why we dont know shit, cause our lives haven't really begun yet. Once we get to livin, we'll get to knowin. Of course, i could just be rambling too.

Much love my man anonymous June 18 2004, 11:54:57 UTC

I know that I'm not really the best person to know all of what you all are talking about. I tend to not have the capacity that all of you who posted seem to have, and to a degree I'm a bit envious of it. I'm sad that times make it so that we become more in-tune with the side of ourselves that you seem to be in Fig, but believe me, you'll look back on it all and be happy that you figured these things out now instead of later. I don't mean to be as vague as I'm sounding, but I just want you to know that Florida and SigEp are two things that will be alive and kicking long after we're all worm food, and both of them are better for having you there. This year I had some tough times, and realized some deeper things in myself and in other people. Steve, you helped me realize those things, and I want to thank you.

Mike aka Fuzzy