I left the feminist community for these reasons. I'm all about laying low and hearing other points of view but the hatred in that community is more intense than the sexism we were trying to discuss!
I completely understand. Honestly. Feminist word-battles are some of the worst I've seen. And most the time it gets to the point where I don't know whose accusing who of what or where they are even disagreeing. And it just makes me rather depressed. And sometimes I don't even see the sexism and it worries me, that I'm bad person or something
I don't know what the answer is -- or even if there is one at all. All I know is that if there is an answer, we're not going to find it by marginalizing our allies, and telling them they're not enough "this or that" to participate. No.
Remember that Internet Social Justice is to Activism as PETA is to The Humane Society. Whenever I try to think of that, it helps. :)
Yeah, I try to tell myself that. Extremes and all that, but the overwhelming amounts of stupid sometimes...*shakes head* I mean, I should be more upset that it's getting to me, but I can't help it. But I'm pleasantly surprised that writing out frustration really helps, even when you're stumbling with words and terrified that someone's not going to fully understand you, or misread you, or that you're completely off the mark. By the time I was toward the end, the anger and frustration just kind of fizzled out and left me more...sad? bummed? than anything else really.
People. I love 'em. But sometimes I wish I could just desert them on an island and force them to get all Breakfast Club with each other. (depressingly though, I'm beginning to suspect a Lord of the Flies outcome more likely with this crowd...)
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I agree, so much. Most people I've talked though, internet or otherwise, seem so quick to dismiss others because of "the little stuff", and fail to see that they are people, multifaceted, with many characteristics, opinions, and ideas, and that just because you don't agree with one of those, that they don't have anything to contribute. I always feel like I'm back in middle school listening to classmate's commentary about teachers that are "total bitches", or that they "hate" them, because they're difficult or challenging, or even because they love a subject the student doesn't understand. It's all so childish and close-minded. Surely, these can't be the adults of the world? I'd always told myself when people were being stupid or cruel, that one day they'd grown up, that I had to be the bigger person until that day. Then I realized stupidity is ageless. *sigh* That was a sad, sad day. But disillusionment usually is. But I've found my niche. The idiots don't bother me too
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Remember that Internet Social Justice is to Activism as PETA is to The Humane Society. Whenever I try to think of that, it helps. :)
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People. I love 'em. But sometimes I wish I could just desert them on an island and force them to get all Breakfast Club with each other. (depressingly though, I'm beginning to suspect a Lord of the Flies outcome more likely with this crowd...)
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I agree, so much. Most people I've talked though, internet or otherwise, seem so quick to dismiss others because of "the little stuff", and fail to see that they are people, multifaceted, with many characteristics, opinions, and ideas, and that just because you don't agree with one of those, that they don't have anything to contribute. I always feel like I'm back in middle school listening to classmate's commentary about teachers that are "total bitches", or that they "hate" them, because they're difficult or challenging, or even because they love a subject the student doesn't understand. It's all so childish and close-minded. Surely, these can't be the adults of the world? I'd always told myself when people were being stupid or cruel, that one day they'd grown up, that I had to be the bigger person until that day. Then I realized stupidity is ageless. *sigh* That was a sad, sad day. But disillusionment usually is. But I've found my niche. The idiots don't bother me too ( ... )
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