Comments | sober_cannibal: le sigh.

sober_cannibal

le sigh.

Feb 06, 2010 00:06

i guess i'm a little frustrated tonight. we had a non-productive day; we often do, when C doesn't work. the weather didn't permit him to today. after being completely bored for awhile, he caved and decided to get drunk.

he hasn't been getting really DRUNK drunk a lot lately; he says he wants to drink only "socially" and not at home, and he's been ( Read more... )

codependency, husband, c

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innana88 February 6 2010, 08:14:37 UTC

I think this is what happens any time we are forced to look at things through a new lens. Sobriety is one such lens, so it makes sense.

I'm really proud of you! *hugs*

sober_cannibal February 9 2010, 15:00:13 UTC

you are absolutely right. it's really a new thing for me... interesting, but completely new.

thanks!

albertesmor February 6 2010, 08:52:15 UTC

No you can't make him stop, and you have to concentrate on yourself, be selfish in your recovery. That's what I was told in rehab, it took some time before I understood it though.
I think you're doing a great job, books on addictions are for the good, I believe it was a book that saved my life, made me see the light ;)(It's Danish so I can't rec it to you, but basically it was a biography of a guy I really respect, if he can I can)
Hope you have a great weekend.

sober_cannibal February 9 2010, 14:59:11 UTC

yeah... i know that, logically, but it's hard for me to get it through my head sometimes. i try to just pretend i'm alone sometimes, when he really gets to me... i guess i need to keep working on that.

yeah, i would say a book totally changed everything for me, too! that one i read, called the heart of addiction was totally the one. really made my outlook brand-new. :)

beee_lyon February 6 2010, 17:04:24 UTC

"i wish i was relying more on spiritual things for strength right now... hopefully i'll get there soon."

Rely on what works for today!

Sounds like you are doing a great job of keeping yourself sober and remember that we can not take care of anyone else if we dont take care of ourself...

sober_cannibal February 9 2010, 14:57:34 UTC

yeah; that's a good point. i should be looking at my successes, not my losses. i'm working on that. :) i think the more i sort other stuff out, the more likely i'll be to introduce spirituality back into my life.