:( I'm sorry to hear such things. He does need to step up and be a father. A few weekends ago, my son, Anthony, was pushing my limits to the point that I knew I was about the lose it. We were at a restaurant, and had it just been the two of us, I would have left to the car with him in tow right then. Instead, my girlfriend offered to watch him while I took a walk. I ended up calling my dad in Tennessee and talking with him while I walked to get the car. Sometimes kids push us over the edge, but we're parents and we deal with it. This isn't a baby sitting stint where we can just drop them off when it's inconvenient.
You ex needs to get a grip on what it means to be a parent.
Thank you, and you're right about that. He's never fully committed to being a parent and has always dumped things off on me when it's gotten too hard for him. I'm really afraid this is going to set up serious abandonment issues for my daughter in the long run. I moved to this town so that she'd be closer to her dad and be able to see him more often, but I'm afraid it's done more harm than good. I'm sad to say it, but we might be happier and better off further away after we move next month with less frequent visitation (even though he only sees her one weekend every 2 months now).
I just want to say again that I'm really impressed with how great a dad you are and how well you've dealt with the custody arrangement and co-parenting with your ex. I know that it can be hard under the best of circumstances, and I'm sure your son is going to benefit greatly from having both his parents so involved in his life. :)
Thank you. You can always write about yourself. Somehow it helps to hear how other people are going through similar problems, as much as I wish that you weren't.
Later in the week he called and said he wanted to see her that next weekend, but the damage was already done. Sophia was so angry at that point that she wouldn't even speak to him, and I told him that it wasn't a good idea and that she needed time and space. I tried to explain to him why she was so upset, and he still kept fixating on all the ways he thought she was misbehaving and how she shouldn't be. He can't seem to understand that that isn't the issue and that kids do misbehave and he needs to be a parent and just deal with it better
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You ex needs to get a grip on what it means to be a parent.
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I just want to say again that I'm really impressed with how great a dad you are and how well you've dealt with the custody arrangement and co-parenting with your ex. I know that it can be hard under the best of circumstances, and I'm sure your son is going to benefit greatly from having both his parents so involved in his life. :)
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Later in the week he called and said he wanted to see her that next weekend, but the damage was already done. Sophia was so angry at that point that she wouldn't even speak to him, and I told him that it wasn't a good idea and that she needed time and space. I tried to explain to him why she was so upset, and he still kept fixating on all the ways he thought she was misbehaving and how she shouldn't be. He can't seem to understand that that isn't the issue and that kids do misbehave and he needs to be a parent and just deal with it better ( ... )
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