It's definately not because you're not pretty enough. Even the ugliest of ugly bitches out there have boyfriends. I'm an introvert too, and a lot of people have told me I'm pretty like they have to you. I also have periods of very low self esteem. These things are all a bad combination because it can make you come accross as sort of snobby and unapporachable. At least that's what it does to me. So yeah, it's probably because guys don't think you're easy enough.
Yeah, you always see the nastiest girls at Theme Parks, and they all have boyfriends!sowhatimdrunkMarch 29 2004, 19:45:30 UTC
I WISH I came off as snobby! T least, I would have an excuse not to talk to someone I didn't like. I'd be all, "Sorry, I don't want to talk to you right now, and you're blocking my view of that hottie over there. And you're short. Goodbye." Heehee, except then, I'd probably be irresistable! Guys seem to love bitches. I don't know.
would it be rude to ask how old you are? it might be a phase... or, rather, it might be a stage of life that you're now in, and things will change...
i used to be pretty insecure, always reading in to boys' interactions with me, but after i started dating my first serious boyfriend, i gained a ton of confidence, which has never really abandoned me, despite various issues/boys/general life stuff. how does this help you? i guess my point is that the first longterm relationship is important for how the rest of your lovelife will play out, so if you haven't had one yet, maybe it's good to be standoffish until you meet the right guy?
When I read back over what I had written, it sounded like I was in high school or something! But that's what happens when you try to be anonymous, I suppose.
I'm really 25. Although, to be fair, I've been carded at 3 R-rated movies this year. And once, when I tried to buy cigarettes, the cashier wouldn't sell them to me. I had to call the manager. :)
And despite all of my whining about being alone, I'm not in any real hurry to be involved with anyone. But sometimes, when the night hasn't gone the way I wanted, I get pity-ful.
In closing I'd like to say that I appreciate your advice, and on good days, I know it for the truth.
anybody would be unhappy after a night hasn't gone the right way... it feels like every single person hooks up with someone every time they're out, but it's not really the case. so don't be so hard on yourself...
anyway, you were drunk. you know there are stages of drunkenness, and eventually you get to one where you feel hopeless and down. next time, just resist the urge to post :-)
I apologize in advance for remaining anonymous. We never met and we never will. I was surfing. Used to be a heavy drinker. I like your openness and sense of humor, and the way you relate to yourself
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Anonymity is fine, in fact it's why my journal sometimes sounds like a thirteen year olds.sowhatimdrunkMarch 29 2004, 20:00:41 UTC
You know what's really funny? (And by funny I mean kind of sad).
EVERYTHING I do is something that "...anesthitizes myself from my anxieties and emotonal pain."
But, hey, deosn't everyone?
I do appreciate what you are saying though, and I know how right you are about when I'll be 38-48 and kicking myself. Because I'm still kicking myself over shit I did in third grade. And junior high. And high school. And....
Re: Anonymity is fine, in fact it's why my journal sometimes sounds like a thirteen year olds.
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March 29 2004, 20:27:01 UTC
No. Everyone doesn't do it. And those that do, they do it much less than you. But who cares anyway if millions do it. If it's not the healthiest/smartest/happiest way to live, then the numbers are a rationalization for a false sense of security. And you didn't sound like 13 to me. Just a sufferer in pain. The fact you keep kicking yourself, is another indication you are into self-punishment. A question you can ask yourself, if you'd like: what am I really punishing myself for? What past and current thoughts and deeds do you find so unacceptable, so shameful, so evil, so lustful that you have to find ways to emotionally and behaviorally torture yourself. But, what the heck, I am beginning to sound tooo serious. Although you appreciate what I said (thank you), I wonder if you blew it all off anyway. I don't take it personally...I apologize for intruding. I'll be on my way now. But I do not want to blow you off, so if you have the slightest wish for me ever respond, just mention O. Wishing you the best. O.
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I'm an introvert too, and a lot of people have told me I'm pretty like they have to you. I also have periods of very low self esteem. These things are all a bad combination because it can make you come accross as sort of snobby and unapporachable. At least that's what it does to me.
So yeah, it's probably because guys don't think you're easy enough.
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You ARE pretty. I know because of your pictures.
Damn me, for not being easy!!!! :)
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it might be a phase... or, rather, it might be a stage of life that you're now in, and things will change...
i used to be pretty insecure, always reading in to boys' interactions with me, but after i started dating my first serious boyfriend, i gained a ton of confidence, which has never really abandoned me, despite various issues/boys/general life stuff. how does this help you? i guess my point is that the first longterm relationship is important for how the rest of your lovelife will play out, so if you haven't had one yet, maybe it's good to be standoffish until you meet the right guy?
or maybe i'm way off base... :-)
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I'm really 25. Although, to be fair, I've been carded at 3 R-rated movies this year. And once, when I tried to buy cigarettes, the cashier wouldn't sell them to me. I had to call the manager. :)
And despite all of my whining about being alone, I'm not in any real hurry to be involved with anyone. But sometimes, when the night hasn't gone the way I wanted, I get pity-ful.
In closing I'd like to say that I appreciate your advice, and on good days, I know it for the truth.
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anybody would be unhappy after a night hasn't gone the right way... it feels like every single person hooks up with someone every time they're out, but it's not really the case. so don't be so hard on yourself...
anyway, you were drunk. you know there are stages of drunkenness, and eventually you get to one where you feel hopeless and down. next time, just resist the urge to post :-)
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It's soooo tempting.
But, you're right, I'll try extra hard not to do it again. :)
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EVERYTHING I do is something that "...anesthitizes myself from my anxieties and emotonal pain."
But, hey, deosn't everyone?
I do appreciate what you are saying though, and I know how right you are about when I'll be 38-48 and kicking myself. Because I'm still kicking myself over shit I did in third grade. And junior high. And high school. And....
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But it's so much better this way. So comment away, my friend, and if I don't respond it just means I can't think of anything to say.
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