Heroes and, ahem, “self-love”

[stacia_kane]

I’m curious.

This is something I’ve wondered about for a while-a long while, actually-and a discussion elsewhere has finally prompted me to go ahead and ask. (I want to emphasize that this is all just hypothetical/what ifs/conjecture; I’m not strictly endorsing any of these ideas, just thinking aloud and providing talking points.)

How do we all

Comments

[hayet]

My two cents? Not only don't mind such scenes, but find them hot. ;) But that's coming (*blush*) from someone who has no hangups about masturbation, alone or with my hubby. I *can* think of a few scenes where the hero did it to relieve tension, or out of frustrated desire. But now that you mention it, there's not many scenes along those lines, are there? But happily, I can't recall a novel I've read recently where the hero *stopped* out of a feeling of *disrespect.* I find the idea kind of kooky and archaic, frankly. (YMMV) Sexual fantasies are not reality, and to be honest I rather like reading about what selfishly erotic things a man would do with his gal if he had her all to himself without inhibitions. It's another way to get inside the hero's head.

[stacia_kane]

I was thinking specifically of NO TRUE GENTLEMAN by Liz Carlyle. :-)

I think they can be hot when done right, but I also know some women who just find the idea unappealing; like I said I know of women who consider their boyfriends/husbands masturbating to be insulting or whatever, so...

[jezebellydancer]

Ooh, I can't wait to see what others have to say about this

[stacia_kane]

Yeah, I actually see that as a plus/kind of a hot idea, that just her bathing him has him so hot he can't control himself. But yeah, I think the initial reaction of "Ick," or especially "How embarrassing" would definitely be there.

There are more comments at my website blog: http://www.staciakane.net/2012/03/02/heroes-and-ahem-self-love/

[cookie_chef]

I'm very interested to see what others say about this. I wouldn't have issue with it in a book.

[stacia_kane]

There are several comments over at my website blog as well. http://www.staciakane.net/2012/03/02/heroes-and-ahem-self-love/

[heavynleigh]

In the Black Dagger Brotherhood series by JR Ward, one of the brothers masturbates. I forget now which one, I haven't read them in over a year. But I vividly remember him masturbating while thinking about the heroine and I'm fairly certain he finished. Maybe he just finished in my head. I'll have to reread those books.

[stacia_kane]

It was Zsadist, and Bella (that's her name, right?) was asleep beside him. She woke up when he'd just started, though, and encouraged him/watched him finish; I ca't remember if she actually climbed aboard or helped, but I know she was right there watching and encouraging. (That was actually the specific scene I was thinking of when I mentioned the heroine "catching" him at it.) :-)

[heavynleigh]

I thought one of them masturbated in the shower while thinking about the girl. It is entirely possible I'm thinking about another series though.

[stacia_kane]

Oh, wait, yeah, that might have been Vishous? But again, if memory serves the woman came in and helped. I could be wrong/misremembering. I haven't read them all.

[marshallpayne1]

When I was fifteen a friend told me, "Creative people masturbate more than non-creative people." This was 1972 and I was living in Kansas. We were both listening to David Bowie and not Grand Funk Railroad like most of the other kids we knew. Take that for what it's worth. Anyway, since I aspired to be a "creative person," I realized there was nothing wrong with a little hands-on (pun intended) fantasying. In fact, it was probably good for one's creative side.

As per heroes in fiction. It's just not very macho for a Rambo type to "do it behind the heroine's back." Never having much affinity for the macho type, I put little stock in such thinking.

Cool post, Stacia. Let no one ever accuse you of eschewing the safe and boring for a blog post. ;-)

[stacia_kane]

Yeah, that was the crux of my thinking, actually: is it macho to do it "behind her back?"

Lol, thanks for the info on creative people!

And no, there are some things I eschew, but I try not to very much. Hee.