sort of a poll about social norms

Dec 29, 2007 18:22

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cos December 29 2007, 23:59:44 UTC
I haven't kept track of the percentages and I'd be extremely suspicious of any guesses I (or anyone else) might make about such things without the actual numbers. In fact, I'd assume such guesses would much more likely be waaaaay off, than they are to be close to accurate. People don't remember numbers like this with accuracy, we remember them with pattern. We remember the ones that surprise us, or the ones that bother us, or the ones that match our expectations ( ... )

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clara_girl December 30 2007, 00:03:36 UTC
i think i shall always put "sweeties welcome" on my invites. i just got one that said just that.

in other news, turn your phone on, darling sweet love.

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surrealestate December 30 2007, 00:13:36 UTC
I can hardly think of any invitations where I was invited specifically as "[my name] and guest", though they've generally been either formal-ish events with paper invites or things like business affairs. So not really an email thing when its personal.

In general, unless there is a particular reason to think otherwise (like a gender-only event), I assume any invite includes a person's spouse (however you define that). I do not assume a non-spouse SO, lover, or friend is automatically included, though.

Unless it has been made explicit that it's not necessary, I ask the host for permission even if I know without question that the answer will be yes.

*Definitely* can't bring anyone else? Very few, and there's generally good reason for it.

I'd say most invitations don't say anything explicit one way or the other on the topic.

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elvendoll December 30 2007, 00:25:18 UTC
Clarification question - does the second item exclude or include the one friend/SO from the previous question?

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starphire December 30 2007, 02:13:49 UTC
I guess it would include them, unless it was already specifically addressed or emailed to both of a couple.

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lightfixer December 30 2007, 01:31:53 UTC
I've found it depends on the nature of the event and the group.

For bigger things it's usually +1, but some people don't even use a guest list...
For smaller things I've been to many with a very strict list, and some that are more open.

I don't know if that helps at all :)

say 80% give +1

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