Clues for the Clueless - on dating

[staxxy]

remember kids:

1) painting all of your exes as villainous pricks only makes *you* look like the asshole.

2) if you are going to villainize everyone you date, don't date from your circle of friends. You run out of them eventually and are left all alone.

this message brought to you by the committee for learning mistakes from the STUPID.

Comments

[imflying]

don't date from your circle of friends

WELL said.

Unfortunately, just not that many "normies" are into going clubbing with "freakies". :)

At my birthday party You-Know-Who thought he was in a room full of my exes. Funny, not one was there.

[staxxy]

too true. too true. :)

speaking of birthdays... will I see you on Sunday?

[my_poison_apple]

Exactly! I try to be friends with people I've dated in the past. Doesn't always work out--particularly if we weren't friends in the first place (bad idea!) or if situations don't allow for it--but I try. My first ex, from long ago, was the person who gave me my initial LJ invite code. :)

[staxxy]

right on!!

[dragons_dreams]

I don't have much ill to speak of my first ex. He has his issues and I have mine. We weren't compatible. We don't speak, as he would love to get back together and I'm married.

However, my son's father continues to do moronic things and makes my life difficult. I vent my frustration here because I shouldn't sit a 6 year old down and tell him what an asshole I picked for a sperm donor.

I found myself on the outside of a circle of friends when his coworkers decided that keeping a civil work environment was more important than being honest about the abuse they witnessed. I have more loyal friends now

[staxxy]

I am glad you have real friends a last. Abuse is never okay.

[tricelt]

Daren beat me what I was going to post; there's only one I speak harsh of and for good reason. Not only was he the first to break my heart, he turned to drugs then tried screwing with my mind once he was clean again. He's also the only one I would be scared to bump into/see again.
There's three I just don't speak of (ironically my first three) because there's nothing bad or good to say about them.

[staxxy]

heh. I get on well with most of my exes. There are a few I do not speak of but for the same reason you don't speak of the few of yours.

It is better this way, I think. :D

[aaminahlefae]

I seem to have had a problem doing the opposite; filtered memories of all the good stuff making them seem better than how I felt about them when I dated them. There's a hidey ex but otherwise; I'm friends with most. Mike's a pretty good buddy when I get to see him and it's looking like Darin and I are doing an ok job at the friend thing so far.

[staxxy]

excellent!!