Clues for the Clueless - on dating

[staxxy]

remember kids:

1) painting all of your exes as villainous pricks only makes *you* look like the asshole.

2) if you are going to villainize everyone you date, don't date from your circle of friends. You run out of them eventually and are left all alone.

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Comments

[evaria]

Thanks to some big personality changes I don't really chat with most of my ex's, but not because they're bad, we just don't have alot in common any more. I have one ex that stole a lot of money from me and one who hates me with the fire of hell(I'm kind of indifferent really) but otherwise they're all cool people.

I agree that somebody who spends too much timing complaining about how horrible their ex's were doesn't strike me as someone I can continue to be friends with if things don't work out and I'm not okay with that anymore. If it's a choice between getting my rocks off and being friends, friends always wins.

[staxxy]

hallelujah.

[coulrophobe]

But one of my exes is a villainous prick (though his official nickname is "the Flaming Dickwad")! Just one though, really. And even him, I've tried to bury the hatchet with. But he always ends up saying something that makes me want to bury the hatchet in his cranium.

I'm friends with most of the guys I've dated, and that's the way it should be.

[staxxy]

yeah, I have the one big flaming evil ex. Just the one, I think most girls have that *one*. The one that made us more cautious. The one that all of our friends want to kill.

[peloquyn]

I don't dislike my ex-whatevers, I just lost track of them. I don't have the energy to spend on being that negative, I guess. There are reasons I dated them in the first place, and those qualities are still part of who they are.

Well said, Stax.

[staxxy]

exactly. :)

[lawst]

I asked a couple more people last night if they remember what it was that I did and got the same answer: No one ever really knew. I was an ex, therefore I deserved to be run through the mill.

I know why she hates me *now*. During the divorce I helped her ex by giving him a signed and notorised afidavit that yes I DID have a romantic relationship with her (which she lied about during the court proceedings), that she had other relationships with women (which she also lied about), and that she villianised every ex she ever had immediately after breaking up in order to gain support to the point that they probably could have sued her for libel. So yeah, she has good reason to hate me now. I figured if she couldn't come up with a good reason I'd give her one.

[staxxy]

hahahahahahahahaha. Yeah, it was all gibberish and sputtering.

Dramarrific!

[lizardmonk]

Granted, life can't all be black roses and moonlight (tongue planted firmly in cheek). However, no one likes a date where the other person is bitching about ex-lovers. That conversation is boring, spiritually draining, and only serves to demonstrate the speaker's own asshattery.

To wit, dates are supposed to be fun. :)

Re: Dramarrific!

[staxxy]

indeed. that too.