Good grief...

[steeltears]

I think I need to take a class on how to respond to people who are dealing with grief. In the back of my head I always think of things that I could say, ways I could support and show sympathy. But here's something I've learned about people who are dealing with grief. You can never say the right thing. In my heart I feel that certain sinking pain

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[mands]

Not to downplay how you are feeling right now, but I would like to remind you that I recall a particular friend that you were a lifesaver for in her time of grief. I know that you meant so much to her and that she doesn't take it lightly. You are a great friend Theresa and should have more confidence in that. I hope I'm not making you mad by what I'm saying... I really think that

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[steeltears]

Oh Mandy, I wasn't feeling guilty b/c of you. I'm sorry if it seemed that way because that's the last thing you need! There have been some other circumstances involving grief in my life that I have been thinking about alot and how I dealt with it. I will say that your entry made me think about it more, but I wasn't frustrated with you at all. But you are right that I am that person that hasn't said anything, but more b/c of timing I think in regards to what you're going through

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[rutharito]

Tree

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[mands]

Tree

hello

[schelle]

I didn't know anyone still wrote in this thing! I thought I'd join in the fun of this discussion. Speaking on behalf of Kaela, Theresa, I cannot tell you enough how much I appreciate your love and support while I was grieving. I'm sorry for directing my anger at you and being hurtful, you took a lot of the brunt of my rage/grief (Ruth too) and it wasn't fair. It's odd to me that I don't remember anything you said back then, I don't remember whatever it was that made me mad, all I remember is how much you cared, that really stuck, and that support is priceless. I was sad for a long time at how grief changed me too, I didn't like the person I was becoming, I do like the person I have become now, but it took me years to get here. And I am sad that it contributed to our then growing distance. Nothing stays the same in life, I'm glad change has brought more connection with us. I think what matters most with people who are grieving is not so much words but gestures of compassion and empathy and support, that's what sticks. And no one person