Comments | stef_c: Relationship phobia

stef_c

Relationship phobia

Nov 04, 2004 02:18

I just developed a new phobia. Relationship phobia.

When you listen to enough problems on heartbreak, you get really really scared. I'm not saying I don't want to hear people coming up to tell me about their problems. If I can be there for someone, good. I'm there.

What I'm saying is...

...I don't think I want a relationship right now.

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Comments 5

athenemiranda November 3 2004, 10:57:31 UTC

a) There is not neccessarily heartbreak. There's always problems and limits and things to deal with, but there is not neccessarily heartbreak.
b) It is worth it. Most experiences are worth it. Could such a living, personal experience really somehow make you less? Of course it's worth it.

stef_c November 3 2004, 11:03:42 UTC

a)true. its not ALWAYS heartbreak. most of the time, it isnt even that.
b)when i could have avoided all that? somehow i doubt it. maybe im jz a coward, but the thought of spending all tat time trying to recover from something u shouldnt have gotten into in the first place sounds like a bad bad idea to me.

meh, im pessimistic. i believe in relationships. im jz wondering where the GOOD ones are? maybe im living too much a fantasy world with happily-ever-after endings.. -_-

poopdetoop November 3 2004, 17:44:14 UTC

i've learnt that at times, there's heartbreak, there's pain, disappointment, and even bitterness. But if you put all that aside, there's also love and sharing your life with someone you love, and just being there when they need you.

So, i'm telling you, the heartbreak is worth it. Sometimes it'll hurt, but most of the time it won't, just as long as you don't dwell on the hurt that's there. But don't be too blinded by love either? *m333*

stef_c November 3 2004, 20:22:26 UTC

u know some part of me is agreeing with u but the bigger part of me is shaking her head violently. i dunno, maybe im jz looking at a string of really bad relationships which can be really distorting to the eye.

my question still stands though.

-_-

bumped here.. anonymous November 8 2004, 09:16:35 UTC

dun think u know me and actually I'm not sure who u really are also, heh, i just bumped into this blog. Kelvin here anyway (www.xanga.com/spikedkelvin). =). Well, I like to look at heartbreaks as a way to know that I'm alive. I mean, hey, relationships WILL bring us heartbreaks I guess as no man is perfect. But I always feel like a heartbreak is worth it because its a chance to take my relationship with that person to another level. I find that a friendship is way superficial when its just sunshine, rainbow and happy thots. Its just good on the surface and a relationship deepens when we can open up and be comfortable to each other and not need to put up a facade anymore. But syikes, when that happens, its often that we get more tactless, heh. But hey, that just gives us a chance to overcome those heartbreaks with each other and make our relationships more meaningful right? Gosh, it'd be freaky if my girlfriend next time NEVER disappoints me. Heh. =). Cheer up yar! We're not perfect but God is, look to Him always in the center of our ( ... )