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[stellaluna_]

I work very hard at having a positive outlook on things -- against many of my natural tendencies, since I'm also a worrier by nature -- and at being nice to people even when they don't deserve it. Especially when they don't deserve it, on the theory that, if they're having genuine problems or struggling with their own private unhappiness, maybe the

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[sunhawk]

Yeah I've been there a number of times *hugs* ://
It's true that all you can really do is kill them with kindness, which really does also drive them bonkers if they are truly assholes
Keep trying!! I'll be there trying too!

[stellaluna_]

*hugs* It is a really crappy place to be, no matter how many times you've gone through it. And I like the killing with kindness approach very much -- I mean, even aside from the asshole factor, I just think kindness in general, or at least striving for it, is a much better way to live.

We will both keep trying! And I think that's better in the long run than giving into the, well, *crap*. Or into negativity.

[icefalcon5767]

*hugz*

We should totally start a support group.

[stellaluna_]

*hugs*

We really should. It's good to talk about these things. (which is something I need to remind myself of.)

[stellaluna_]

I think it's something we all go through at times, and it can be so difficult to find the words for when we want to talk about it. But yeah, it is really good to have someone who likes who I really *am*, and who I always feel comfortable being myself around. It mitigates a lot of this other stuff. :-)

[atrosie]

You don't know me, and I don't really know you, but I do know this: Being who you are is never wrong. I'm truly sorry that anybody has ever made you feel that way. And I'm glad that you have someone to make you feel better.

Just keep swimming.

[stellaluna_]

Thank you! You're right: being who you are is *never* wrong. I think I know that deep down, but it can be hard to remember when I'm feeling frustrated and had-it-up-to-here about things. But I have good people in my life, and I like to believe that there are a lot of us out there who *are* trying to do out best to reach out and be kind to others. Like people are doing for me here, actually. :-)

And I will definitely keep swimming!

[scarletts_awry]

*hugs you tightly*

I like "in-case-of-emergency person" -- it works on multiple levels.

It is hard to talk about all this, but I think you're kinda amazing for trying to put it into words.

(Well, I think you're kinda amazing all the time. <3 )

[stellaluna_]

*hugs you back* You know I love you and you keep me sane, right?

I like "in-case-of-emergency person" too. It just seems fitting for a variety of reasons.

Yeah, all of this is hard to talk about, but I think it's better than keeping it bottled up? And if I'm serious about trying to practice kindness and positivity, letting my frustrations build probably isn't a good idea either.

(Plus, I can't *actually* go around punching people in the neck.)

(I think you're kinda amazing all the time too. Nice how that works out. ♥ )