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stmcole

A social commentary....

Sep 04, 2006 20:04

I've been mulling this over for the better part of a week now. It is time for me to speak out. There is something wrong with American values today. Things are not focused on what they should be focused on, but even more importantly too many people feel free to to make judgements about decisions others make for their lives. Just because these ( Read more... )

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stmcole September 5 2006, 11:02:55 UTC

thanks. :) *hugs* I just hate the feeling that it's my obligation to go to work and to make money. I don't see staying home as inferior or submimtting, especially not today when people are so aware of all the things moms do. It doesn't pay the best, but then again since when have I had a job that paid well?

wingedpixi September 5 2006, 12:52:48 UTC

it think is stupid .... the obligation is not to work and make money ... the obligations is to do what you want.... i have issues with people who want to stay home because they want to be kept.... i think everyone should be a valuable contributing part of a community or society .... i have issues with women who dont choose to do this but are forced to because their husbands dont want to help with the child rearing or because they feels its "a womens place" ..... staying home .... thats a full time job believe it or not ... just like looking for a new job when your totally unemployeed is a full time job .... its exhausting .... its demanding .. and anyone who thinks other wise is a fool..... I applaud you because you know how single minded you get and would have the tendancy to put your job before your family .... its good to know yourself that well... finding that balance is difficult ....if you have the means to have a single income home go for it .... that rocks... more imporatantly is the fact that you are finishing your degree ( ... )

cassandramorgan September 5 2006, 13:25:18 UTC

I wouldn't even bother to listen to Licentia. (Since she is the only one I know that gets bitchy when people say they want to be stay-at-home moms.) She has some really fucked up views.

Personally, I'd like to stay home with Mo but we can't afford it. c'est la vie.

stmcole September 6 2006, 16:56:16 UTC

This was said by a professor, in class, in front of everyone. It is currently on record so that if anything else happens then I have a leg to stand on to say I've been persecuted and treated unfairly. :)

cassandramorgan September 6 2006, 17:22:02 UTC

Woah. A professor? That's a little out of line there. I just figured you were talking to friends and...well...they acted like Licentia ^_^ But someone in authority? That's uncalled for.

stmcole September 6 2006, 18:25:22 UTC

That's what the University did not like to hear that, but I didn't want anything said. I've made a record or the incident so that if anything else happens I have something to say things have happened in the past. I hated to think that I would be graded or treated unfairly, but if she felt strongly enough about her opinion to say that in class then what's her to stop from using her opinion in her grading of my projects or in her dealings with me. I hated to think that would happen, but I felt if she could be as out of line as to say that, that she might also do the other....

megansmommy September 5 2006, 16:39:53 UTC

Amen! You know how I feel about this too. I am dreading going back to work in 2 days. I honestly don't know how I'm going to do it. Everyone said it would be easier with the 2nd child - but it seems much harder. I am frantically cleaning the house trying to get it on the market before the end of the week. As soon as it sells, and we have somewhere cheap to buy - I'm quitting (or going part time, if I have to, depending on what we find to buy). I am determined to get this house on the market and sold though so that I at least have a chance to stay home with my babies.
Anyway - not to hijack your post - just wanted to let you know that I completely understand. Good luck!

stmcole September 6 2006, 16:58:46 UTC

Thanks, I knew for sure you would understand. I just don't get why it's such a big deal. Especially since I did choose a profession with with expressed portability. I've *always* wanted to stay home. It's likely because my mom stayed home with me and we have a nice close relationship and I'd really like to be able to have that bond with my children. Good luck with the house selling! I'll keep you guys in my prayers.

skotte September 5 2006, 16:48:40 UTC

Actually it mostly amuses me that you even have to fFeel like you have to defend yourself on this point. Which is not to say you being defensive amuses me. No no, that's not what I'm saying at all ( ... )