Comments | stolendream: so...tell me what you think

stolendream

so...tell me what you think

Nov 12, 2005 14:33

The phrase "once a cheater, always a cheater"

Is it true or not?

and why do or don't you think so?

I just wanna see what everyone else thinks about this..

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katiebug200 November 12 2005, 12:10:38 UTC

This is a hard question to answer. On the one hand, it is very very hard to trust someone you have known to be a cheater. Because you will always have that in the back of your mind as something they might do again to you.

On the other hand, if the person is truely "in love" with a new person, they might not cheat at all.

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katiebug200 November 12 2005, 22:09:44 UTC

I would have to disagree.

I think people can change, but they have to WANT to change. And that is the hard part. If a person is a habitual cheater, then they might not see it as a problem, or that is their fall back plan on getting out of a relationship. Wrong as it is, they see nothing wrong with it, so they will not change because they do not want to. But the potential to change is there. If there is motivation.

meggygurl November 12 2005, 12:21:27 UTC

I don't think that just because someone has cheated in the past, they are for sure going to cheat again... I think it makes it easier though. It's like sex... once you've done it once, the second time is easier... then the thrid... and so on.

I think you need to see if the cheating was a isolated event, or they are serial cheaters. If they have cheated a lot... then yeah... chances are they are going to cheat. If they have done it once, then maybe it really was just a mistake that they regreat and will never do again.

I say this all with the knowledge that 3 years ago... I would have said yes with out hesitation. But I've learned a lot... so... I think it really depends.

Depends. fencerlitdiva November 12 2005, 13:03:15 UTC

Cheating is largely circumstantial. I think there are some people who are maybe "always" cheaters, but I think there are also people who may have done something in one circumstance that they would not do in another.

tokenbutch423 November 12 2005, 13:46:33 UTC

not true. Being in love changes a person, and makes you not want to see other people. I think the bigger question would be the validity of the relationship. NOT saying it's wrong or that theres a bad guy, it's just maybe not quite as advanced in one persons mind as in the other's. Love at first sight doesn't exist only infatuation. --or at least that's my take on it.