Comments | superplin: ::blows dust off of LJ::

superplin

::blows dust off of LJ::

Dec 14, 2011 20:19

Wow, it's been a while since I posted, huh? Man, reading that last entry was weird. It feels like so long ago.
( An update on the Schrödinger situation, in case anyone wants to know )

life in the desert lane

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beck_liz December 15 2011, 11:52:17 UTC

Good luck, whichever you decide on!

p_j_cleary December 15 2011, 12:07:21 UTC

You're far more patient with S. than I would have been. Even if he's the most interesting guy in the world, that doesn't make his actions any less crappy towards you.

At any rate...I'm so glad things are looking good on the professional front!!

superplin December 15 2011, 18:32:19 UTC

Yeah, the thing about S. is, he somehow manages to be pretty sophisticated (as in, has a lot of varied life experiences), extremely introspective, and yet also totally clueless about social interactions. It's not just with me. I didn't call him out immediately because a) I wasn't sure we'd ever interact again to any significant extent, so why bother; b) I felt as though that was a girlfriend-y way to react, but it's not my job as his ex to tell him how he screws up his relationships; and c) I figured the odds of actually sorting anything out over text or email were pretty slim ( ... )

ironed_orchid December 15 2011, 20:30:32 UTC

There's a certain type of introspective person who is very aware of their own feelings, and pretty clueless about other people, and even more clueless about the impact they have on other people.

ann1962 December 15 2011, 12:24:19 UTC

If nothing else, enjoy the trip. Let them woo you and see how it goes. There should be wooing.

It's not easy to give that up at this stage.

When we thought we might be moving to CA this summer, this concern was a huge part of the decision. We would have been giving up so much.

Can you use this potential offer maybe as leverage in your current department somehow?

I'm glad you have some clarification about S.

jonesiexxx December 15 2011, 14:35:48 UTC

Apropos of nothing, I love your Singing in the Rain icon.

ann1962 December 15 2011, 17:53:22 UTC

Thanks! I love that scene so much!

superplin December 15 2011, 18:24:11 UTC

When we thought we might be moving to CA this summer, this concern was a huge part of the decision. We would have been giving up so much.

Yeah, I'd be making some pretty major sacrifices. It's hard to say whether those would be worth it, especially when I've spent so much of my life working and now, for the first time, have an active social and creative life outside of work. None of which would be portable to the new location.

Can you use this potential offer maybe as leverage in your current department somehow?

I don't think it has any value as long as it remains potential, but if an offer materializes then I'll definitely be going straight to my dean. (Well, that's the current plan. We'll see how this situation with my colleague plays out.)

jonesiexxx December 15 2011, 14:34:53 UTC

So exciting to be wooed! And it's lovely to see you here.

I'm insanely curious about the identity of the wooer, of course. I understand why you don't want to blab, but my inner baby is throwing a tantrum.

superplin December 15 2011, 18:21:18 UTC

Well, it's not an Ivy League school or anything, but they do have a good reputation in my field. To the average person, or even academic in a lot of fields, it probably wouldn't register much.

(Does a little more info help or hurt?)

midnightsjane December 17 2011, 07:24:20 UTC

Balancing a career and a personal life can be tricky, can't it? I have no advice to offer, other than the obvious: decide what's most important to you at this stage of your life, and go for it.
Good luck with whatever you do!