Comments | tchkita: Passionless?

tchkita

Passionless?

Aug 05, 2006 19:33

I'm starting to think that it's impossible for me to have a nice, normal conversation at Kensington with my mom and uncle paul. It started out fairly ordinary; "How's life", "What's new with you", and so on, but then took a drastically different turn when they started talking about me, my life so far, and how I'm not doing anything to make myself ( Read more... )

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vernlicious August 6 2006, 03:22:02 UTC

Do it. Seriously. GO TO ENGLAND.

Travel opens your mind up, living in a another country will really help you grow.

You can tell when someone has lived in more then one country. It's a different understanding of people. If you have the oppurtunity to do it you NEED to take that.

tchkita August 7 2006, 00:53:28 UTC

I haven't talked to them since then. I'm a little afraid to, just incase it all falls through. I don't want to have it go from a "maybe" to a "not a chance". But if it does go through (I'll keep everyone posted on that) I'd be pretty damn stupid to pass up an opportunity like that. The only thing I'm not sure of is how long and hard it would be to get a working visa for over there, but everything else, passport, lodging, job, ect. can be worked out through e-mail pretty much.

Who knows...

yoella August 6 2006, 05:02:21 UTC

Fucking DO IT! Are you kidding me?? A year in Europe? How often does a chance like that come along? And are you happy?

tchkita August 7 2006, 01:00:09 UTC

That's the thing, I thought I was, but apparantly I'm just content, which is a far cry from actual happiness. Not a comfortable conversation to be having at any time, let alone in a rather crowded pub. Right now I'm feeling a little like I'm in limbo.

Oh well, I'll figure it out someday, I think. Atleast I've been promised help in that respect.

the_schauff August 7 2006, 05:55:52 UTC

If my parents ever tried to pull something like that on me I'm pretty sure my first reaction would be bitterness over the Red Deer guilt trip followed by my mind boggling at the rest of it *ponders* As for your trip possibility, a year ago I'd have jumped all over that but now that I'm living with my girlfriend... I dunno... Basically I'm using your personal dilemma as a framework to put myself through one so just ignore my babble. Except for this last part where I wish you well and send *hugs* :D

tinsel666 August 8 2006, 16:54:33 UTC

who are they to judge your happiness or what's going to make you a happier person? no doubt they are sincere in their well-wishing, but why is it up to them to "fix" you? who said you are unhappy, you or them? and seriously, they need to look at their logic if they think that they failed to teach you something before, and yet suddenly they are the best people to teach it to you now ( ... )

vernlicious August 10 2006, 02:44:44 UTC

Have you ever watched someone doing something you did that you wish you could do over? If she looks at Juli and thinks, she can be happier and I think I know how to help, she'd be a bad mom to just ignore it.

On that note, it's totally infuriating when my Mom meddles, even when I look back and she was totally fucking right (he did cheat on me when I was in Europe, how did she know that would happen?!). Think of it from her perspective- she knows it's going to bug you, but she still has to do it.

Come visit me in toronto Jen. We can take a trip to Montreal and visit with Joel.

tinsel666 August 10 2006, 16:10:25 UTC

true, parents have more experience and can see things coming. as an objective viewer of your life, just about anybody who cares for you and knows you well enough can do the same. but on the same note, just about any of my friends know me better than my parents. and i know my parents are stubborn about a few things, no matter what is actually best for me... such as "finish bachelors, and after that, get masters". it would take some rediculous, life-altering, gigantic event or change for them to ever say "ok, i guess you don't have to get a masters".