advice

[that_girl2]

has anyone out there ever had to work with someone they have a long-standing feud with?? turns out i am not only going to have to have professional interactions with Cinderella, but also her partner, The Fall. she's working with young men throughout the state on domestic violence awareness stuff and it just makes sense for the two of us to connect

Comments

[lysistrata]

Honestly, I think the best thing to do is get to a place where you can 'be your job' and not 'be yourself'...it's sort of an emergency coping thing that I've found quite useful. I'm a little queasy around blood and when my brother nearly cut his finger off and we were home alone and I had to handle it, I sent Kelly far away and I "was" First Responder. I saw a trail of blood leading from the kitchen to the bathroom, almost threw up and then just clicked over. Does that make sense? I know that it's not an emergency but it's something that you have to do for work, so it's necessary.

Also I love your nick-names...they amuse me.

[that_girl2]

so, sort of go into crisis response mode, eh? sounds like a good plan to me. the last time the three of us were in one room together it was not pretty...so thursday should be interesting. perhaps not an emergency, but certainly a time where being the job instead of being me might be a GREAT way to get through it. thanks, chica!

by the by...wonderful pics from this weekend...sorry i missed ladies night...i've been so over the bar lately...and i was llama-sitting in jericho this weekend.

On second thought...

[mrbenchly7]

I must admit that I disagree with the aforementioned advice (sorry, lysistrata!) or, at the very least, your interpretation of it. I think if you go into "Crisis Response Mode," you're going to psych yourself out and make things more tense than they need to be.

In my lack-of-PhD-in-psychology opinion, I think you need to focus on the positive, rather than consider the negative. The positive being this: you left that unhealthy situation in the dust a LONG TIME AGO and you found yourself the most positive situation known to (wo)mankind. The Fall is now a professional associate and nothing else. Forget the past and focus on the good work both of you are doing now.

Would I follow my own advice in your shoes? Absofreakinlutely not. But it's my advice just the same.

The Trash Heap has spoken!

Of course I'm speaking with no real knowledge of the situation, but...

[msparker16]

I would have to say the best way to handle this, is much like you would any phobia....head on! Be YOURSELF and YOUR JOB....let your confident fabulousness shine through. Even if it bothers you more than fire ants in your pants to sit in the same room with this person, I have found that acting, to their face, as if it is nothing at all usually works best...I choose to almost "show off" and be overly confident and even a little nice to said person...always staying purely and solely professional. If this is not effective it may prove beneficial to confront said person on the issues at hand and get it out and get over it. Like Benchly has said, these are issues of the past...pick at the scab, let it bleed a little and then allow it to heal. There may be a little scar there, but it will never bleed again.

The High-Class Heap has spoken