Week 34-2: "Yo dawg, I herd you like therapy..."

[the_day_setup]

Comments

[myrna_bird]

Sometimes, talk therapy alone is just not helpful. If you know what it is about yourself that you want to change, you could set some goals and time frames. Short term behavioral therapy usually takes that approach. You have the gift of gab in your writing too but I love your sense of humor!

[the_day_setup]

I guess that's kind of my overall complaint about all the therapists I've had so far. I *would* come in and try to set specific goals, time frames, etc. My therapists would rarely try and help me with getting there; they seemed interested in just pushing me back into talktalktalktalktalk mode. And it's nice to talk stuff out sometimes, to have a place to do it. But with the likes of me, it's *not* going to generate results long-term

[myrna_bird]

The book the Dr. Jeff plans to publish is to help address all these concerns that you talk about. Maybe you could ( if you haven't already) contact him. He is looking for questions to answer for people in helping to find a good fit with a therapist.

[the_day_setup]

I've missed all of this. Alright, I may contact him. :)

[n3m3sis42]

I suck at therapy. Somehow, I always manage to be there for a maximum of 7 or 8 sessions before the therapist tells me I seem well-adjusted and that I don't need further therapy. Clearly, I'm not expressing my crazy well enough, because if I didn't need therapy I wouldn't be there. Duh.

Oh, and also, I liked Dream of the Blue Turtles.

[the_day_setup]

I wondered if anyone was going to catch the absurd 27-year-old Sting-album reference, not that I'm any kind of a fan (as I seem to recall stating in some long-ago LJI entry about his involvement with The Emperor's New Groove and the "secret" documentary made around it). You win a cookie.

I have a very, very hard time envisioning a therapist actually saying "You don't need me any more." This seems the antithesis of the willfully capitalistic attempted extension of therapy into the infinite horizon that I always seem to experience when I walk in. Maybe you should come in with a crazy-manifesto all written up.

[n3m3sis42]

I always get your musical references. :)

Sting is a fucking asshole but I was 8 when that album came out and didn't know any better. So I still like it.

With our powers combined, maybe we could... actually get fucking therapy?

[the_day_setup]

Alright, so when you want to go in for a group session? How does this work? Do we just alternate?

[alycewilson]

That does sound frustrating, but some therapists believe in the "hands off" approach where the client is encouraged to work through things on their own.

When I was in therapy, she used to ask me questions that helped me find my own answers. And then we would discuss those answers. I found that very helpful, because later I was able to ask myself those questions and work things out. I particularly liked the exercise where, when I worried about something, she encouraged me to think of the worst-case scenario and how I would deal with that. What I discovered was that, if I could come up with a way to deal with the worst-case scenario, everything else seemed easy.

[notodette]

I did therapy one time. I was in dire need of something to happen.

First the man tried to give me pills. Before he even heard what I was there to say.

Then he told me to do unethical things and things that I was uncomfortable with, not to mention to continue some of the habits that I'd gone in there to break.

Then he hit on me.

I processed it with a hearty fuck you.

[the_day_setup]

This is all just fuckin' grand. :(

I am glad you "processed" it quickly, at least. Nothing like someone hired on to help who does far more harm than good.

[the_day_setup]

What *is* it with this field?!