READER S.F. and the Polyamory Rant

[thegreenbear]

Reader S.F., posted this on a discussion forum site about gay relationships; polyamorous ones in particular. This is his post

Comments

[putzmeisterbear]

I agree. Guys seem engineered to spread their seed everywhere they can.

[lordalfredhenry]

Not sure what to make of it. Monogamy isn't always bad IMHO. Seems like excessive labelling.

[thegreenbear]

I didn't say that it was. It works for some people just like roller coasters, country music, or sashimi. If it doesn't work for you, you will know it and either continue on with it because you like it for whatever reason or you wont continue on with it for whatever reason. My point was that many that DON'T fit with it DO carry on with it because a) They don't know any different and/or b) They give in to social pressure and expectations. If it works for you, great! If it doesn't, don't lie to yourself and lock you and your loved one in to a relationship where neither one of you is truly happy. Monogamy is, like these other things, a choice based on personal likes and style which are in turn based in cultural and genetic factors. Social change to oppressive or unhealthy systems or ways of thought, however, is a natural process. It happens regardless of our personal opinions and only stabilizes truly when all sides of that social rubik's cube are solved. Not sure what you're referring to with the labelling thing, though.

[viana_qoh]

I concur, though I do have some things to add