pathetic

[theonetrueruss]

well.. so hee I am... I've lost the last thing I had that mattered.. well.. I guess not. I'm just depressed. Inever realized how attached I was to that damn cat. I can't believe he is gone. My mother was utterly fixated on that cat. She used to drive by my house in new Orleans jsut in the hopes of seeing him in the window. Now that he is gone.. and

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[robz65]

Hey brother, I'm sorry about your loss. I have two cats Houdini 16 and Zelda 15. Houdini is Zelda's mom (I know, don't ask about the naming cause Zelda is a 14.4 pound tom). I've had them since the beginning of high school and the fact that they are as old as they are is slowly creeping into my brain. I do believe I'll probably miss at least 2 days of work when the first one goes. There isn't anything I can say to bring back your mom or your cat but remember that you have friends. Grief hits everyone differently and you shouldn't feel stupid or pathetic, you just get through it the best way YOU know how to. I look forward to seeing you at DC or maybe even earlier. Hang in there my friend.

Ed

[misangela]

Well said, robz65, well said.

He hit it on the head, Russ. Of *course* you are saddened by Marmie's passing! He was a part of your life for a long, long time. Even if he got on your last nerve occasionally, he was still a constant.

Death is a finality that we all must face especially as we get older. The loss of people and pets leaves holes in our hearts that never really go way, we just work around them. Even now, something will trigger a memory of my Dickens and his loss will sting for a moment. I still of Dave occasionally when I hear a certain song or pass the Chamblee-Tucker exit on 285. I guess that's just the way it is.

I never want to forget the people and pets who enrich my life, so the sting of loss is an acceptable price to pay for the memories, IMO.

We look forward to seeing you on Sunday, hon. We'll raise a glass to Marmalade, ok? :-)

[bealsabubbette]

it is always hard to lose someone you love. and i have NEVER doubted that you loved smarmielade.

andrew and i are not quite in the same boat as you - but we're on the same river. we are obsessed with wills and final wishes and the like - i have been a little death obsessed lately.

it's okay to grieve. marmie was a link to a life that's been gone for a long time, and it's okay to be sad about losing that connection. and given the way you bottle things up - your pysche is just using this as the chink in the armor to bring up other stuff.

the weather is almost nice enough to hang on the back deck. we'll have to hook that up.

[tragicwhore]

my condolences.

[ravyn001]

Sorry to hear about your loss Russ.
We hold our pets as dear as family. They share our lives and are often their through our pains. I wish you well and look forward to seeing you.
Take care