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[theotherqpc]

my father found out about Ed and gave me a choice

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[wicinefanbear]

Damn, Jeff--that was way harsh. I am so sorry. But like someone else said--4 years isn't that long. Hang in there, buddy--you can do this.

Hell isn't anyone going to say it!!!!!!

[rock_bear]

tell your family to fuck off and go and be with Ed - you're going to let your parents decide who you sleep with?

what are you a mouse or a panda!!!!!!

Re: Hell isn't anyone going to say it!!!!!!

[darkphuque]

We all want to say it, but there are practicalities...I don't have have a Job that has health insurance. Jeff is too young to have a job worth anything. I cannot provide the things his family can.. right now. AND beyond that...in a Chinese Family, not matter how awful the conditions are, its YOUR family. It is rare to find any asian gay man that completely separates from his family... If I didn't know better I would say its racially genetic. Its a very hard thing for westerners to understand. I do and that sustains me.

Re: Hell isn't anyone going to say it!!!!!!

[theotherqpc]

i wish i could do that...the romantic in me really wants to...

but between school and healthcare, i know i can't risk losing my financial support. my prescriptions alone would cost about $500 each month if i didn't have my father's insurance covering me...

Thank you, rock_bear!... :)

[tkn1114]

I hate to say it, but everytime I play it safe, I regret it!
What is youth scared of these days? Losing what they actually have or what they think they have and may lose?
I sympathize but I bet if his dad really loved him he'll get over it and respect quirkypandabear as an adult. His son - but an adult. My mother did even though for a long while I thought c'est fini!
How utterly asian, though, to blackmail! You should have told him: "You should have left black mail in the old country, dad!" :)
GOOD LUCK with HAH-VAARD or wherever you're going to school! Must be one of them Ivy Leagues else you would'nt need so much funding?

[lfkbear]

Sweetie, I'm really sorry that it's come down to this. Perhaps over time, your parents will come around. In the meantime, this seriously sucks. I hope you find a solution for happiness soon.

Sending you big hugs.

[jodfoster]

Sorry to hear you have to go through this and just hope it's one of those "if it doesn't kill you it will make you stronger" type of things. I completely understand the funding issue with college but just know that it IS possible for you to pay for school thanks to the U.S. government. I should know, I'm STILL paying them off! Keep your chin up, hun. This too shall pass.

*small ass hug* (Hey, I'm only 5'1". I can't do big ones!)

[theotherqpc]

thanks...

unfortunately, school isn't the only thing i need to worry about paying for - my healthcare gets pricy, especially with 5-6 prescriptions

[devcubber]

*putting jodfoster on my shoulders so together we can give you a big hug*

I am so sorry that this is happening...you will get through it