There is a difference in being in love and being in love with the way someone makes you feel. In this case it was the way the person made you feel at the time and yes there was a true love for that feeling but not the person.
Well if someone was putting on a front for you then sure, that trust is gone but it depends on the reason for them doing it as to rather or not they can be trusted again. No matter what, you will never feel the same with or around them but the innocence of the relationship is gone but that doesn't mean that hatred has to be produced and it sure doesn't mean that it's the end of the relationship. You could actually really get to know the person and how they really are and love them more than you thought you did to begin with or on the other hand you could hate the way they are and spend a long time searching for someone or some thing that can make you feel that way again.
oh im not worried about hating someone, i think if you loved them, its almost impossible to go from one extreme to the other, i do believe in being very bitter towards the situation though. oh and i dont like ending relationships.. but sometimes change is due. and that search is probably what keeps us going in life.
i would chalk that up to lust. i think when you love someone there is a unconditional desire and careing for them that no matter what they do-- you cant stop. parents loving their crackhead children, girls loving abusive boyfriends, etc. without knowing someone you cant connect in that attatched of a way yet i feel. lust can feel just a powerful sometimes....
i know exactly what you mean. and i know what you mean by unconditional love (i dont just throw that word around) but i wasnt talking about not loving them anymore (if you truly loved them, it cant just stop), i was asking could you love something that was never there in the first place.
Actually, it's all pretty true..you can love the thought of someone, the way they make you feel, and maybe love so many attributes of that person that the feeling overwhelms you. And there's certainly a difference between love and in love.
Love is a terribly complicating emotion. Too many questions. Some people feel may just think they're having these intense emotions when mostly it's just in their head.
every love is true love... it's just a matter of how 'deep' that emotion is rooted... think about it... have you ever heard of fake love? no... all love is real, because all love is in the moment...
the way I look at it, because I have been in a similar scenario, is that you are in love with the old persona of that person... the way they were... I'm still in love with the person my ex used to be and the way I remember her... I changed and she changed... visions blurred... whatever... the love was still there...
try not to question human emotion too much, because I have lately, and the more I ask the more I want to know... it's a cycle... don't get caught up in it...
i agree with love being true love, i wasnt talking about someone changing, i was talking about them having this fake persona the whole time you knew them, if you were in love with that fake persona, and not with that person's true self, were you ever actually in love with that person..
1: they say that every actor gives a part of themself to the part they play... and that is in fact what this person was doing.. they were playing a part... so it could be that you were in love with a part of that person...
2: you could look at it all as you only ever love someones personas(plural of persona?)... the them that you see... because no one will ever see all of anyone ecept themself... and if they are lucky they won't even see all of themself... but I digress... in this way of thinking, the love was no less true, you merely loved one of their personas...
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but is that security and trust now taken away? (that has a lot to do with how that person made you feel)
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and that search is probably what keeps us going in life.
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and i know what you mean by unconditional love (i dont just throw that word around)
but i wasnt talking about not loving them anymore (if you truly loved them, it cant just stop), i was asking could you love something that was never there in the first place.
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you brought up a great point..
loving who you are around that person.
ive thought about that before... but didnt expect anyone to point it out.
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Actually, it's all pretty true..you can love the thought of someone, the way they make you feel, and maybe love so many attributes of that person that the feeling overwhelms you. And there's certainly a difference between love and in love.
Love is a terribly complicating emotion. Too many questions. Some people feel may just think they're having these intense emotions when mostly it's just in their head.
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the way I look at it, because I have been in a similar scenario, is that you are in love with the old persona of that person... the way they were... I'm still in love with the person my ex used to be and the way I remember her... I changed and she changed... visions blurred... whatever... the love was still there...
try not to question human emotion too much, because I have lately, and the more I ask the more I want to know... it's a cycle... don't get caught up in it...
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i wasnt talking about someone changing, i was talking about them having this fake persona the whole time you knew them, if you were in love with that fake persona, and not with that person's true self, were you ever actually in love with that person..
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they say that every actor gives a part of themself to the part they play... and that is in fact what this person was doing.. they were playing a part... so it could be that you were in love with a part of that person...
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you could look at it all as you only ever love someones personas(plural of persona?)... the them that you see... because no one will ever see all of anyone ecept themself... and if they are lucky they won't even see all of themself... but I digress... in this way of thinking, the love was no less true, you merely loved one of their personas...
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