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Rant

Feb 04, 2007 22:40

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i'm gonna be harsh with you, because you're my friend and I want to help. pt1/2 existantgnostic February 5 2007, 18:28:56 UTC

First of all: shelve the apology. You don't need to apologize for complaining on your personal blog, man. You even put it under an lj-cut, so anyone with a complaint has no right to an opinion ( ... )

Re: i'm gonna be harsh with you, because you're my friend and I want to help. pt1/2 thrames February 6 2007, 03:29:49 UTC

Thanks muchly for the advice. Anyway, I do have some of the hard part out of the way: namely, she's already a friend of mine. We share a lot of interests and I can tlak to her without feeling too self-concious and without seeming needy (at least, as far as I can tell, I'm not seeming that needy). I'm just wondering how to properly progress beyond friendship and I was rather much depressed yesterday when I made this post. When I feel that depressed, I heavily downplay anything good and probably well exaggerate my weaknesses and any possiblity toward failure and so on.

As for spirituality, eh, that was me wishing I could perhaps reclaim it so that I might alleviate my own weakness by wishful thinking, basically. I do not think I can ever again have a spirituality again, no matter how distasteful my own death seems to me. And, that, really, is the main reason I wish to regain spirituality: so that my own conciousness does not cease when this body does.

And I'll answer the other stuff you posted on the other post you made.

Re: i'm gonna be harsh with you, because you're my friend and I want to help. pt1/2 existantgnostic February 6 2007, 09:02:32 UTC

I understand about being depressed. It's great you are already friends! Since I don't know the girl or the nuances of your relationships, I couldn't give you particular advice that is very well informed. But I'm inclined to say, "just ask." Don't treat it like a big deal, just be like "hey, let's do such and such a thing, just the two of us." And maybe you could try paying for whatever, and see how she responds to that. Or you might go right ahead and say "Do you want to go on a date ( ... )

i'm gonna be harsh with you, because you're my friend and I want to help. pt2/2 existantgnostic February 5 2007, 18:30:20 UTC

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Re: i'm gonna be harsh with you, because you're my friend and I want to help. pt2/2 thrames February 6 2007, 03:32:43 UTC

I heartily agree with this. Thanks for all the advice.

And I suppose I didn't have much more to add, despite what I thought with my above response. :P

Re: i'm gonna be harsh with you, because you're my friend and I want to help. pt2/2 existantgnostic February 6 2007, 09:04:55 UTC

Don't worry about it. I'm glad my words seemed reasonable and worth consideration. I believe you will find your solutions. Just as long as you remember that there's no reason not to.

take care, and talk to me anytime. I'm on AIM, and I try to be available when I can.

btw... existantgnostic February 5 2007, 18:32:00 UTC

pic very related. ;)

(that is to say, the icon I am using here is very intentional, and is a part of my overall message.)

narilyte February 6 2007, 03:16:51 UTC

I've noticed you seem to have a "need companionship" thing going on over the last few months. You seem to be at a stage in your life where you've got this drive within you that you need a companion/romantic interest. You get interested in one person, then if they don't work out, you immediately move onto someone else, and if they don't work out, again someone else.

That is the wrong way to go about it. If you go out intentionally looking to find a special someone, it'll only end in disaster. You cannot really fall in love with someone from a distance. What do you really know about them besides a pretty face?

You think you've fallen in love. Okay. What's her home town? Favorite color? Favorite Food? What makes her mad? What makes her laugh? Favorite flower? What about her personality do you not like? Does she know anything about you? What about her family? The list goes on and on. You can be smitten with a pretty face, but what do you know about the real her?

True love is not something you go out looking for. It just ( ... )

thrames February 6 2007, 03:52:57 UTC

Well, in this case, far more so than last semester, I am actually friends with this woman and we hang out a fair deal. Were it not for various schedule conflicts, I do imagine that we'd be hanging out more. While I don't know everything about her, we are fairly good friends and getting to know each other better and better. Also, we seemingly have fairly compatible senses of humor, though, I don't know her full stance on dead baby jokes. However, considering she doesn't have much of a problem with other morbid humor, I think she'd be pretty cool with them, even if she didn't make them herself. That's getting ridiculously tangential, though ( ... )