Confused

[time4menow1965]

Ever have a relationship where you were totally in love with the person physically but didnt have anything else going on?

Then meet someone else who give you everything you need in every other aspect but your not sure that youre physically attracted?

HELP!!!

Comments

[rowena_falkirk]

Yes, and Yes.

I would go slow and see which one stands the test of time. Also, look at how they treat their mother. It is a "test of character". If momma is looked after, high probability that you will be too. Again, go slow.

warm huggles!

[time4menow1965]

well the totally in love physically is over......he moved on........but the everything I have wanted is here and now and Im torn... I like him as a person and love being with him but not sure theres that spark!!!

[riven63]

Nope

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Yes - and I've been happily married to that one for over 20 years!

[lindsayturi]

No but, my take would be that 'not sure' is not totally turned off. Give it some time. I have more than one friend who found a really good man that they just loved to bits for character reasons, but didn't (initially) find them all that steamy. But we women are complicated sexual beasties, and it's highly possible for that kind of relationship to TURN steamy, as long as there's not something you find actively off putting about them physically.

Of course, it's also highly possible to get involved in a hot and heavy romance and only later discover you were lucky enough to choose a standup guy :p (who me??!!! never!!)

[time4menow1965]

ugh well my problem( and yeah I know its me) I did that route 17 yrs ago with the ex and now I feel like I want it all.....I want the physical attraction and the everything else in life ......lol. Maybe its divorce syndrome...lol I want everything.

[time4menow1965]

I dont know what sucks more....being married to someone you dont have feeligns for anymore and going thru the divorce or Dating AGAIN @ 44. Is it me or do guys just look alot older than their age.....lol .....omg so shallow!

[lindsayturi]

Well, it's also true that an attraction may never develop. I'm just saying that it's also possible that he'll get hotter the more time you spend with him :) If he doesn't, then you have a nice friend and he never has to know you wished he would have knocked your socks off. :)

I should note that afore mentioned friends spent at least a year, and in one case 5 years, being friends before they finally noticed they found said friend to be cuter than they remembered. :)