I am a pretty decisive person. Breakups, choosing a school, moves, animal issues; the "right" decision always seemed pretty obvious at the time (though difficult, in some cases). What helped get through the difficulty was the fact that I knew it was the right decision.
However, I agonized over whether I should take a job that offered more money, but more (undesirable) travel and a longer (ie. insane) commute. I'm glad I took that job, because it enabled me to achieve some important goals; but I'm much happier now that I've moved on from it.
I don't think we've ever had an in-depth discussion about everything that went into your decision. If "reliving" that by talking about it is something you'd rather not do, I totally understand, but if you don't mind maybe we can find time while I'm out there in June?
Your trip to MN is well-timed, as I arrive on the 12th and will be staying at least until the following Sunday. I need to work in some time for apartment viewings (I know I won't find anything to rent so far in advance, but I'd like to get an idea of what my money can buy). I may shoot down to LA to visit my (extremely young, extremely pregnant) cousin for a few days afterwards, so the trip may extend as long as 2 weeks. Still in the planning stages, but definitely the 12th through 19th at minimum :)
I've always had a difficult time with the dichotomy of loving someone versus being in love with them. If you've got the former and not the latter but you're in a relationship, it's way more difficult to leave than if you wake up one morning and decide you hate that person. Not that that's ever happened, but do you know what I mean?
Yeah, after high school I went to hunter for a semester and a half. about half way through the second semester I found myself taking nothing but classes that I was really excited about and yet not being able to get out of bed. Right before I left for spring break I had a big panic attack/small breakdown.
I spent the next week of my vacation contemplating it and by the end I decided to leave hunter. I was clearly not mentally healthy and I didn't understand why or where it was coming from. I was wasting my time and my money when I could be getting so much more out of school being present.
My mother did not take to the idea at first and tried to talk me out of it, but I stuck to my guns. I haven't a clue where I'd be now as my life took a different path from then on, but I'm pretty happy with it thus far.
I found myself taking nothing but classes that I was really excited about and yet not being able to get out of bed.
The incongruency of the two parts of that are so unlike any Whitney I know... it's difficult to imagine what could have caused that, except maybe something inside you knew it wasn't what was best for you. I'm glad you were able to make such a difficult decision and stick to your guns about it -- further tribute to your incredible strength. I hope you're proud of your decision because from what I read here, you ought to be.
dropping people i dont like off my friend's list. oh ha ha livejournal, just kidding.
i'd say ending my last relationship. it was the longest one i'd been in, first one i'd lived with and we'd gone down a bad road to emotional dysfunctionality to the point where i didn't realize how bad it all was. but overall, i haven't had terribly difficult decisions to make in my life, so i can't complain.
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However, I agonized over whether I should take a job that offered more money, but more (undesirable) travel and a longer (ie. insane) commute. I'm glad I took that job, because it enabled me to achieve some important goals; but I'm much happier now that I've moved on from it.
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Others have been difficult in their own way but that one dragged on the longest.
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When is this June trip you speak of?
I'll be in Minnesota fromt he 9th to the 12th.
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I spent the next week of my vacation contemplating it and by the end I decided to leave hunter. I was clearly not mentally healthy and I didn't understand why or where it was coming from. I was wasting my time and my money when I could be getting so much more out of school being present.
My mother did not take to the idea at first and tried to talk me out of it, but I stuck to my guns. I haven't a clue where I'd be now as my life took a different path from then on, but I'm pretty happy with it thus far.
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The incongruency of the two parts of that are so unlike any Whitney I know... it's difficult to imagine what could have caused that, except maybe something inside you knew it wasn't what was best for you. I'm glad you were able to make such a difficult decision and stick to your guns about it -- further tribute to your incredible strength. I hope you're proud of your decision because from what I read here, you ought to be.
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i'd say ending my last relationship. it was the longest one i'd been in, first one i'd lived with and we'd gone down a bad road to emotional dysfunctionality to the point where i didn't realize how bad it all was. but overall, i haven't had terribly difficult decisions to make in my life, so i can't complain.
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