Hmm. "Unofficially dating". What exactly does that mean anyway? Friends with benefits? Fuck-buddies? Or just what it says: all the actual motions of dating, and just know one knowing
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Generally, I'm not for friends with benefits/fuck buddies. It's all the same no matter what you call it. If both people are happy, then whatever. Not hurting me. But when you are obviously unhappy with the situation, then I have somewhat of a problem with it because you are my friend and I love you. You are NOT a horrible person. However I do think you need to reevaluate what you need/want in life. I don't think Mike really cares about you all that much if he realizes that you obviously want more out of him but, even after all you've been through, all he's willing to let you be is a fuck-buddy. Probably don't like what I have to say, but real friends are honest with each other.
It's not that he's only willing to let me be a fwb...I wouldn't want to say it like that, because I know he does care. We're honestly trying to fix all of the things that made our relationship weak before, and by stepping back more often, I've noticed that I *am* getting more of what I need. He fully owned up to the part where even if I did, in fact, "smother" him...it was mostly his fault for not saying anything, so at least this time, he is taking part of the blame. And I did bring up some of the things that bothered me to him; this time, even though I was afraid, I said it. And they got worked out, which tells me that we're on the right track. He knows that he needs to start giving back--said it to me, even, so I know that he knows. And he's started to, which makes me happy. My ranting is more because he's the only one that can make me weak, and he's the only one that my patience fails me for, because I want him NOW. lol, My own fault. >_>
*hugs* I want you to know that, while I may not always agree with you, I always care about you and am always here to support you. I'm glad things are getting better. I just want you to be happy. :)
yeah I was in a similar situation for a very long time and i have to at although I am happy now almost two years latervthat doesn't mean there weren't a lot of tears and heartache along the way ESP if hevfeels free to see other ppl. But I always did what I wanted no matter what anyone would say to me so as long as youvare happy thats what matters but if you aren't perhaps you ought to reevsluate the situation. Luv TAS
You're way to special to waste your time on a guy that doesn't care about you the way you care for him. You're not a horrible person - if you're happy in the situation, then don't worry about it. But if you're not, you've really got to think about whether or not you're receiving what you want from the relationship.
Don't let anyone screw with you - you're way stronger than I'll ever be *hugs*.
It's hard to think straight when you're dealing with your worst weakness. But, you know...it's all the shit that I've been through for him that made me realize that I'm stronger than even he knows. And I know that one of these days, he will learn that. But when all's said and done, I know what I want. It just takes time to get it. :P
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I'm always around to talk. *hugs*
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Don't let anyone screw with you - you're way stronger than I'll ever be *hugs*.
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*How've you been? We haven't talked in AGES.*
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