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[turnip]

I could be having a great day and Facebook will send me an email saying "it's not as great as you think."

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[counterfeitfake]

facebook can bite my ass

[potatohead]

sweet is such a slap in the face.

[turnip]

Aaron and I discussed this the other day.

him: the girl I met at the party is so awesome, so perfect. she's like really sweet.
her: so she's not funny.
him: well... no. she's not.

him: I met this rad girl who's really funny!
her: so she's not sweet.
him: well... no. she's not.
her: good!
her: you kind of need someone who's sweet, though.

[potatohead]

Someone once described me as sweet and I got really offended. Sweet is for girls who have no idea what's REALLY going on.

[counterfeitfake]

What is really going on, potato head?

[odradak]

Why no "I'll take whatever I can get" option?

[turnip]

your answer surprised me.

[odradak]

In the end, after they get tired of me for whatever reason, it comes down to which of the two cause less damage. In my experience, the cold women have brought more misery than the dim ones.

That's assuming I have a choice.

[counterfeitfake]

i will take "desperate" over "sweet" OR "witty"

[lame_carrot]

tact is for people who aren't witty enough to be sarcastic.

[turnip]

yeah, perhaps -- I've known maybe one girl in my entire life who seemed genuinely, sincerely, AUTHENTICALLY sweet, sweet at BIRTH. That girl was irreproachably good.

otherwise, no. sweetness is just an adaptation like anything else. "please like me, here are some cookies."

on the other hand, witticism is an adaptation, too, but it's not as nauseating. Or as manipulative.

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[drunkasalways]

I'm sorry sweetheart, but I have to disagree with you there.

One, (sweetness/tact), seeks acceptance from a specific group or individual by offering kindness, possessions, or self services. The other, (witty/sarcastic), is an isolating self defense mechanism for scorned fat or ugly chicks.

But, one can be sweet but not tactful; witty and not sarcastic; witty and tactful; or any combination, you get the point. (I hope)

the woman you've been married to for two years sez:

[turnip]

ATTN HUSBAND, HI.
I am sarcastic, funny, and smart. I'm also attractive. I have female friends who are sarcastic, funny, smart and also attractive. They comprise a good percentage of my friends list.

many traits are defense mechanisms.
Just because sweetness can have the appearance of kindness or selflessness, doesn't mean it's not manipulative or compensatory.

[trisloth]

I guess I should modify my answer to be "I find 'witty' to be incredibly endearing and somehow sweet".

Dumb-and-or-passive-aggressive-sweetness is for the birds.

[turnip]

if the question was, "which is better - smart or kind?" I would choose "kind" hands down.

but witty vs. sweet is different. Mindless, indiscriminate sweetness is insulting!

[drunkasalways]

You must have hated meeting my ENTIRE FAMILY. lol