Spring Clean

[ubiquirk]

After over two years on lj, it was time for a spring clean of the flist.  Fandom interests have diverged and, in many cases, diverged for some time.  You can say, rightfully so, that a lot of that is me.  It's not that my interests have changed, per se, as much as my true interests have fully emerged.  I absolutely love science fiction.  It will

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[septentrion1970]

At least, your flist will be manageable. And it's nice of you to post this. Being defriended without being told is upsetting, as I've found out. ♥

[rayruz]

Amen to that.

[hogwartshoney]

Being defriended without being told is upsetting, as I've found out.

And it particularly sucks if you thought you and the other person got along really well!

[ubiquirk]

It was getting way too huge for me to handle with my limited time. I'm glad that this post sounded okay (even knowing what to say was hard).

[rayruz]

Hey, Ubi. :D I know I haven't talked to you in forever, but I thought I'd say hi. I've been a pretty bad lj friend all around.

[ubiquirk]

No worries - I've been having the real life of insanity myself, which is one big reason for this cut. Have a good end of semester.

[firefly124]

I wish lj didn't use such an emotionally loaded word.

Amen to that. That's one of the high points to this new Dreamwidth thing, imo. They've taken the "friend" word out of it and separated "subscribing" from "granting access to protected entries." LJ would do well to follow suit.

Nonetheless, this was quite hard to do.

It always is. *nods*

[veradee]

I agree that the expression "friend" is unfortunate because it is emotionally loaded, but while I haven't bothered finding out too about Dreamwidth, I'm not sure whether their way of handling things is better. At least, I could imagine that some people will be as hurt about just being on the "subscriber list" instead of the "protected entries list" at DW as they are hurt when they are defriended on LJ. At least, on LJ you never know when you are filtered, do you? :)

[firefly124]

Maybe. The goal seems to be to keep "subscribing to read stuff" and "social networking" separate. While I'm sure some people will get hurt in any scenario, I do like that basic idea.

I don't know whole lots about Dreamwidth, but what I have heard sounds intriguing, at least. It'll be interesting to see how and in what directions it develops.

[ubiquirk]

I know nothing about this Dreamwidth thingy - is it going to be the next ij?

It was really hard. But it also fits with my 'clean things out' mindset.

[hogwartshoney]

Y'know, your point about using such an 'emotionally loaded word' is a truly excellent one. In the past, I have friended many people (and others friended me) because of one or two 'conversations' or areas of interest, but I for one don't peruse my f-list as often as I used to. Therefore, unless I've elected to 'track' someone's journal, many times I'll miss what people post. So, in that way, I kinda suck :) But..... I guess my f-list is filled with people I think fondly of, some of whom I interact with often, and others only occasionally. That works for me, for now, anyway.

I suppose it's also a function of what people use their f-lists for. Some may have lots of time and lots of friends and need feedback etc from their listies. That works for them. Me, I've never had a mass of friends IRL, but I have enough to keep me happy and moderately sane ! ;o)

*hugs you*

[ubiquirk]

I for one don't peruse my f-list as often as I used to.

Same - and what time I do have for it I'd rather have for focusing reading.

I suppose it's also a function of what people use their f-lists for. Some may have lots of time and lots of friends and need feedback etc from their listies.

Yeah, everyone really does have different ideas. I started on lj with the typical, 'Hey, you're nice!' friending idea. But as I went on, what I wanted from it solidified into the idea of a smaller, closer flist.

[ayerf]

*hugs*

I sometimes consider having a spring clean of my own. Perhaps when things aren't quite so insanely busy for me... I've always shied away from it in the past - it can't be easy to do. And LJ's term of 'defriending' really doesn't help there.

[ubiquirk]

It wasn't easy. But I figure if it's been over a year since a person commented here and I never comment on them either, then it makes sense for both people. [The word just adds a layer of hurt that's unnecessary.]