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[unsurrealiste]

Last night when Victor and I went to his parent's flat for dinner, he decided to tell them that he had a girlfriend, so they wouldn't suspect him of being gay. I'm not sure why I'm even so surprised, really. I know he has issues with his family and his sexuality, but I don't think I'm out of line to find it quite uncalled for to have to sit through

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[shades_away]

gui..i'm so sorry that happened. i assumed he was going to tell them since he was bringing you to meet them. i'm sure coming out is hard but i'm really surprised about this. it's not fair to either of you.

[unsurrealiste]

I knew he wasn't going to; before we'd even left, he made me promise him I wouldn't bring it up. I just feel like it's one thing to not mention it at all, though, and quite another to make up lies about a girlfriend.

[atrum_astrum]

Jesus Christ, Gui. I don't have anything to say to defend that - I've been there myself - and it's gutting and horrible. I'm really sorry you had to deal with that, especially from him. x Hang in there.

[unsurrealiste]

Thank you x

I'm sorry you've had to deal with it as well. I think we both deserve to be treated better.

[atrum_astrum]

Well the difference here is that I told them upfront to get fucked and left them. I *know* I'm worth more than that, and yes, do deserve to be treated better. But you do, too. And if he doesn't want to put up or shut up then...well. The choice is clear for me.

[inthereeperbahn]

your not over reacting, he is being a knob!! "have to sit through a dinner where he's making up stories about his girlfriend" seriosly wtf, i would of flounced off right then or probably cried. hope it gets sorted, this aint fair x

[unsurrealiste]

Well, I have to admit that part was slightly my fault.

I was so angry that he mentioned having a girlfriend, that I told him he should tell his parents how they met, just to see him try to desperately think on his feet to come up with a story ;)

He shouldn't have brought it up to begin with, though.

[inthereeperbahn]

well your both mentals then :P dont make no excuses for him though, i wont ever out nobody but i aint got no patience for people hiding in closets then being whiney bitches about the problems it causes. if i can tell my parents anyone can you know?

[unsurrealiste]

I wasn't going to out him to his own family. The only thing I could do in the moment was make it as passive aggressively as uncomfortable for him as I could.

...Neither of us handled it in a mature, reasonable manner, honestly.

You're right, though. I've tried to be understanding, because my parents have always been supportive of my sexuality, so I don't know what it's like to worry about the ramifications of coming out, but there comes a point where he just needs to do it.