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upthebuttboy

A Little Bit Better

Aug 12, 2005 09:18

I'm sitting at my desk, working on service agreements. Which is basically just a slow repeated process of copy & paste.

I really just want to wrap a blanket around myself, sip hot cocoa and get all warm and snuggly.

Last night I had a chat with Zach, brwneyedbarista. I've given him a lot of crap on my journal, so a good shout-out to him is long overdue. He is ( Read more... )

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satcshoegal August 12 2005, 09:40:23 UTC

:-)

Is all I have to say.

upthebuttboy August 12 2005, 09:53:09 UTC

I like this post! It's actually a happy post for once!

hahaha! I need to make more positive posts like this.

Yeah for positive posts. You should make one too!

coffeecup_poet August 12 2005, 10:32:04 UTC

fun? you should run around portland with me.

upthebuttboy August 12 2005, 12:06:31 UTC

I <3 Portland. It's such a beautiful city.

coffeecup_poet August 13 2005, 06:30:52 UTC

i'm actually starting the drive to move down there this morning and could always use another friend. so.. offer stands open =P

snowfreak August 12 2005, 10:57:34 UTC

not being yourself, or not being entirely truthful in your journal would be a disservice to yourself. the people that meet you, talk to you, etc - they wouldn't know the real you, and you'd always have a nagging insecurity that they are actually being friends with you under false pretenses. it's better to be open, honest, and love the friendships that come out of that, than it is to conform to some false standard and never truly be happy in those relationships.

... or something like that. :)

comicsfan August 13 2005, 05:08:53 UTC

Yeah, but--with all deference to Christian--using someone's LJ as a gauge for openness and honesty isn't something I'd want to depend on. LJs can be just as full of "false pretenses" as--say it with me--gay.com. :) This stuff is just text on a page; it's like going out and buying someone's autobiography and thinking you know who they are by the end of the book ( ... )

snowfreak August 13 2005, 06:34:51 UTC

i suppose narrowing the comment down to just the context of LJ does a disservice to my point - that's the way you should live your life all of the time. And yeah - i completely agree that judging someone by any one factor- be it LJ, appearence, socioeconomic status, family, friends, speech, disability, beleifs, etc - will likely lead to false conclusions because none of those things, on their own, make up the entirity of a person.

allamericanjock August 12 2005, 11:24:35 UTC

My first impulse was to comment on this with (as a joke): "Well, lucky for you, gay guys are shallow, so you'll get a lot farther being hot and fucked up in the head than ugly and stable."

But I think I'm going to opt for a serious comment, instead: there are degrees to being "fucked-up insecure", and to a lot of people it's very attractive to be honest enough with yourself and others to be able to admit your insecurities. Personally, I find a little bit of vulnerability and a little bit of insecurity endearing. Too much is too much, of course, but: I like being able to take care of a guy emotionally a little bit (e.g. by reassuring him if he needs it), and I like a guy who has some flaws (since I know I have my own, as well).

upthebuttboy August 12 2005, 12:09:01 UTC

lol. That's a terrible joke! What's sad is that it's probably true. Another reason I hate having hormones - it makes you shallow.

It's comforting to know that's probably normal to be fucked up. And it's ok to show them, to let guys know. So maybe they are less intimidated or something. As long as I don't let my insecurities and flaws get too ugly and messy (I got to keep SOME control) I should be fine

Thanks. :) I'm starting to like flawed guys too. When I dated guys who seemed perfect to me, it became a disaster. I was crazy in trying to be someone I'm not. I wasn't able to myself. And I don't want to do that anymore.

dreamskinner August 12 2005, 11:52:21 UTC

reading this reminds me of a quote from Batman Returns,
Catwoman (Michelle Pfifer)
"It's the so-called "normal" guys that always let you down. Sickos never scare me. At least they're committed."

upthebuttboy August 12 2005, 12:10:04 UTC

I love that movie! Michelle Pfifer kicked ass as Catwoman. So funny.

And that line is *so* true. I love it. :)

dreamskinner August 12 2005, 19:04:58 UTC

That use to be my sn on MSN for the longest time :). I say that movie was the best of the entire series. ^_^

dreamskinner August 12 2005, 21:54:49 UTC

BTW, my mns= dreamskinner@hotmail.com add me :-D