Comments | vakago: Can she smell the coffee brewing? I doubt it

vakago

Can she smell the coffee brewing? I doubt it

Dec 17, 2004 23:59

I am not gonna appologize again for not being here to post it is just inevitable these days with all that is going on and my pain level. Most of all I have had it with my mother yet again so that is nothing new. Since my mom and uncle left Tuesday I have been trying to get my house back into shape and spotless. Thursday was the worst day yet. ( Read more... )

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deepfire December 17 2004, 21:36:31 UTC

*hugs you tight* I'm so sorry that you're going through this with your mother, hon! But I do understand totally. For most people it is a 'if there isn't something visibly wrong with you all the time, you're not chronicly sick/disabled/in pain/etc'. I've run into this so much with friends and some family (namely my brother). My mom has scoliosis (sp?) and so is a bit more understanding than most, but my friend Matt was always the worst, always comparing his injuries and hurts to mine and telling me how he just works through it. I always wanted to kick him in the balls and then ask if he could work through that? He doesn't talk to me much any more, guess he got tired of me not being able to go do things with him any more. Ah well. The point of all this was I think you're wise to distance yourself for a bit. If you can't get support there, there is obviously other places you CAN get it (call me any time too, sweetie, won't always be able to talk, but if I am around I will sure try!) and SHOULD go to get it. If there is any kind ( ... )

Thanks vakago December 18 2004, 14:37:06 UTC

Thanks for our talk today it did make me feel better...........sue

Re: Thanks deepfire December 18 2004, 15:26:14 UTC

Anytime, sweetie! It did me too, looking forward to the next one!

Huggles you up!
~N

ladyaltona December 17 2004, 22:00:51 UTC

*hugs*

{{{{{hugs}}}}} mirageangelhope December 18 2004, 14:19:33 UTC

dear vekago
I'd hate to see you so upset.You don't deserve this.I'm sorry your mother wasn't able to help yuopu there shoulsd be a law that states if you are sick or disabled you should have a good set of parents one that can be there for you.At least you know from now on onto call her.My mother is the same I got mine when I was 14 and even then my mother refuse to emotionally support me and so did my dad.
I glad to hear that you have friend that are there to support you.I think that we would all be lost.
I hope that things get better for you and that things calm down
love mirage

Re: {{{{{hugs}}}}} vakago December 18 2004, 14:35:29 UTC

Thanks hun I hate the fact that we both know what it is like not to get any help or emotional support from our moms............sue

ex_ebony770 December 18 2004, 14:22:41 UTC

Hi sue..why didnt your mother help you with your dad when he was ill?

selfish woman she is and yes your best off not bothering with her as much and hust concentrate on yourself

BIG HUGS

Damned if I know vakago December 18 2004, 14:33:36 UTC

My mother claimed it was too stressful for her to help me take care of her husband my dad so she didn't. I bathed him, I dressed him, I shaved hin, I toileted him, I took him to dialysis, I gave him all his medicine, I did his treatments, and I slept on the floor by his hospital bed in my livingroom for 3 yrs while his wife my mother slept very comfortably in her bed. You are damned right I will be distancing myself..........SUE

Re: Damned if I know ex_ebony770 December 18 2004, 14:38:30 UTC

Your a saint and shes just feeling guilty

er she wasny much a wife if you ask me

sorry for saying that

Re: Damned if I know vakago December 18 2004, 21:16:47 UTC

I am far from a saint but she is feeling guilty and you can say anything you like about her Cindy cause I will not defend her to anyone she is dead wrong and has not been good to me mentally in quite a lont time.............SUE

just_shoe_me December 18 2004, 14:54:25 UTC

I'm sorry your mom was not there to support you when you called her. We all expect/hope our moms to be our biggest supporters.

I love sleigh beds - so envious you are getting one. :)

Insanity vakago December 18 2004, 20:42:45 UTC

Do you know the definition of insanity? It is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. That is my problem with my mom. I expected that she would treat me like she treats my sister silly me. I expected some compassion from a woman who could not even take care of her own dying husband silly me. I was wrong for thinking she had changed........sue

Ps I will try and get a picture of my sleigh bed to you......!