The following is a compilation of everything, in a nutshell, that I feel towards my parents. I mean I'll skip over the little little stuff, but yeah. And after that, a letter I'm going to Email them regarding said topic.
I think this is worth a shot. I know how you feel right now, and I think you ought at least try. If nothing comes of it, you can at least feel good about trying instead of holding back and spending time wondering if it would have worked or not.
The only thing I might say is that I would save most of the bad stuff for the end, particularly your negative feelings about your parents. Putting it at the beginning will most likely anger them from the start and they will read the rest of the letter in anger. But if you put it at the end, and the rest of the letter is pretty reasonable sounding, then they'll already have all that in their minds before they get to the bad stuff. Here is something you can add before you say all the bad stuff, and you can edit this however you want:
"I'm going to be completely open and honest with you about how I feel about both of you, because you should know. But you should also know that I didn't choose to feel this way about you, I didn't just suddenly make this up, in general, we don't choose how
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It's late, so I can't spend much time, and anyway, I'm not sure whether I can give you any good advice. But I want to wish you the best of luck. And also, you should know that the kind of conflict you are going through with your parents is not unique. Many people have gone through similar ordeals. And most people are able to find common ground and reconstruct the relationship. Sometimes it has to do with the transition from a child-parent relationship to an adult-adult relationship. For parents, I think it is sometimes hare to make that transition -- harder than for kids. Anyway, I hope that your efforts lead to a better situation for you and your parents. Take care.
Thank you, everyone, for the constructive criticism. I really don't know what to say, but it means a lot, even though I don't really know any of you, and I'm going to take everyone's advice into great consideration, while thnking about what to do next. After all, (even though this isn't the greatest assumption to make) you guys have most likley gone through something like what I'm going through right now, and know the feeling.
Hi Paul. I do not think that your parents will get mad. your expressing your open, honest feelings and opinions, and they cant get mad at you for that. if they do, dont take it personally. everyone has their faults, and they shouldnt be mad about you putting them into the open and wanting to discuss them. the only thing im wondering now is, maybe i should try writing something for my mom like this. hmmm.
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The only thing I might say is that I would save most of the bad stuff for the end, particularly your negative feelings about your parents. Putting it at the beginning will most likely anger them from the start and they will read the rest of the letter in anger. But if you put it at the end, and the rest of the letter is pretty reasonable sounding, then they'll already have all that in their minds before they get to the bad stuff. Here is something you can add before you say all the bad stuff, and you can edit this however you want:
"I'm going to be completely open and honest with you about how I feel about both of you, because you should know. But you should also know that I didn't choose to feel this way about you, I didn't just suddenly make this up, in general, we don't choose how ( ... )
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