People change

[verytwo]

I just got reconnected with a old old friend, whom I've known for more than ten years, but lost touch for the last few years. What shocked me was how she has changed. With the limited facts of what she's been up to / in to, my first though was " she has turned bad". But while comparing what she has changed to my own changes, I concluded "I have

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[sjschen]

To what kind of "bad" have you both changed from what you were?

[taara]

what d'U mean by "bad"?..

[sjschen]

I means that C is a prude :D hahahaha!

[verytwo]

I was referring to the "bad" thing against traditional conservative chinese teaching, and also "bad" things against the Buddha's teaching.

[shuripentu]

People do change a lot, especially at university: it's usually the first time in your life that you're mostly independent, living away from your parents, and starting to develop your own ideas and ethics.

I don't think there's anything necessarily wrong with rejecting the morals and values of your culture, family, and religion, and developing your own: it's much better to live according to rules that you've acctually considered carefully for yourself, than by rules that someone else has handed down to you "because that's just how things are".

[thehollow]

i second that thought.

[verytwo]

I agree with you. It's just hard (but not impossible) to act comfortably against what we were taught. Lots of consciousness is needed to remind one self that "what we were taught is not always right / the only way to do things with".