Its that time of the year again

[vincento_o]

Watching a episode of Dirty Jobs and talking online to Jenney who just wants to be friends with me, not date like Ive been thinking we were doing, or messing around for a month, its just friendly banter

Comments

[lilusako]

I think... friendly banter is one thing, but completely stop talking to you, avoiding you, or not telling you anything. I think i'd feel kind of left behind. I was seeing someone not in a relationship, but as friendly banter and we kept it going only because we knew we had to part ways for a year or so (with me going to Japan and such). But - when my friend was busy they would tell me when... to leave them alone and that they'd come after me when they're ready to start again. I was the same

[izzboof]

Well, almost all the guys I have dated have been friends first. James told me he just wanted to be friends too. We were best friends for a year before we started dating. So don't give up hope completely. However, the only way that that was able to work for either of us was because I was honest with him. I told him I was in to him and when he said "just be friends" it made me really sad, but in my experience you can't have too many friends. Just don't put too much effort into the friendship...what I mean is, if it feels like work...skrew that. Don't put all your eggs in one basket either. Even while I liked James in the year before we were dating, I still had crushes on other guys and when out with other people.
So if she comes around, sweet. If not, you haven't burnt any bridges or missed out on another oppurtunity.