In theory, I think they're fine. I do encourage those involved to be upfront about what it is and what it is (and is not) going to be, but if people want to enjoy an uncomplicated night together and move on and they are capable doing so, who the hell am I to say they can't?
I don't think they inherently different for men or women. I think society tries to get us to think they are, what with advice columns for women centering on "How to make your one-night stand something more!" while the opposite page advertises a comedy about men trying to avoid awkward encounters with women they've slept with, etc-- and even follow-up questions from friends are likely to fall along these lines, since the teachings of gender sink in pretty hard in most people. However, I don't think it really has anything to do with gender; I think one-night stands mean something different to different types of people, period, and depending on how you function and what you are looking for in sex, relationships, etc, you may like or dislike one-night stands
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I could never do it, I don't think, but I have no problems with people who do. If it's what they want to do, and both parties are up for it, it's cool.
Agreed. I would say that it's a chemical and emotional bond. I feel sorry for those whose bond has indeed been made and unmade so often that they are uncaring about something so intimate. I'm glad that the girls I had sex with when I was single were girls with whom I was in a relationship. I have enough hangups from those relationships without any more from casual sex.
I have mixed feelings, my current lack of any libido notwithstanding.
Had what I thought was a "one night stand" once and then the other person kept turning up unexpectedly. Not only that, but their girlfriend then returned from New Zealand after a 5 week holiday. They hadn't said anything at the time and to be honest I didn't ask. But I immediately felt guilty because really, I'd enabled them to cheat on their partner.
I might have had one other since then but it had no lasting consequences. I'm into the person rather than the sex, so one night stands, and visual pornography are neither very interesting.
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I don't think they inherently different for men or women. I think society tries to get us to think they are, what with advice columns for women centering on "How to make your one-night stand something more!" while the opposite page advertises a comedy about men trying to avoid awkward encounters with women they've slept with, etc-- and even follow-up questions from friends are likely to fall along these lines, since the teachings of gender sink in pretty hard in most people. However, I don't think it really has anything to do with gender; I think one-night stands mean something different to different types of people, period, and depending on how you function and what you are looking for in sex, relationships, etc, you may like or dislike one-night stands ( ... )
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Had what I thought was a "one night stand" once and then the other person kept turning up unexpectedly. Not only that, but their girlfriend then returned from New Zealand after a 5 week holiday. They hadn't said anything at the time and to be honest I didn't ask. But I immediately felt guilty because really, I'd enabled them to cheat on their partner.
I might have had one other since then but it had no lasting consequences. I'm into the person rather than the sex, so one night stands, and visual pornography are neither very interesting.
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