Comments | wheelig: A new day

wheelig

A new day

Apr 10, 2011 10:04

Today feels like a fresh start. It's going to be hot (82) and sunny for the first time since the fall. We have all the windows open and there is a refreshing breeze coming through. Ivan is pooping a little again. I cleaned up a lot of the apartment: a much easier task without a puppy underfoot. I feel like there is peace again and I have my own ( Read more... )

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divinelybereft April 11 2011, 03:51:19 UTC

Erin, I have been following your posts and your Archer return story and I am just heartbroken for you and Jason. I am really sorry it didn't work out and I know how hard it is on you. Don't worry too much. Everything happens for a good reason, even the decisions you make that make you feel like YOU chose something to happen.

Hopefully I will call you soon!

captainsavvy April 11 2011, 17:13:08 UTC

I am so sorry to hear that you had to take Archer back. I know it must've been a really tough decision, but i'm impressed you were able to realize there was a problem and then actually fix it. I know how taxing it can be to be continuously worried about whether you're making a pet happy or not.

and on a sort of bittersweet note, since you posted about getting Archer you'll always have that as a way to remember him.

wheelig April 11 2011, 23:46:43 UTC

That's so nice of you to say. I was pretty worried that you guys would think Jason and I are just stupid, callous assholes... or something like that... I also considered taking down my initial post with his pictures on it, out of shame... but I didn't think that was very much in the spirit of owning up to my mistakes.

captainsavvy April 12 2011, 00:38:42 UTC

i'm not just saying what i said to be nice either, I'm not saying you said that, i'm just making sure you know.

And you shouldn't think of this as a mistake. Millions of people get pets they can't take care of - you know that from where you worked. Very few however are wise enough to figure out in time that something isn't working and not make it a devastating thing for the animal - like when they're abandoned or given away after years of bonding with you. That's what I would call a mistake.

Some times i feel really worried about the second pair of rabbits we adopted. I'm glad we did, because i don't think their previous owner was taking very good care of them, but it totally changed our relationship with our first pair of rabbits, and its that much more hard to keep up with taking care of them. I spend a good deal of every day feeling like i'm ruining their lives. I'm not saying that I necessarily feel like it was a mistake, but it is sometimes hard for us and I worry its hard for the rabbits.

wheelig April 12 2011, 01:34:38 UTC

I understand. I kept thinking that we could keep him if we just didn't worry so much about him. But then who would we be? I have not had a pet rabbit since I was ten or so, but I think it must be even harder to tell whether you're taking good care of them, since I am less familiar with how they express themselves. I remember my one pet rabbit always looked at you like you had betrayed her in the worst way.