Is There Life After Carisbrook?

[whipslave20]

After my last session I was chatting with Mistress Jadis and the conversation drifted on to the subject of what would happen if she stopped working professionally.

Now I should stress that there are no immediate plans for this to happen, so the subbies of Sydney can relax.  But I have been having fairly regular sessions with her for two and a half

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Mitzi respectfully disagrees

[anonymous]

What brave and inspiring words - but I feel the exact opposite way. If you have ever been queer, you know what gut-wrenching it is to fall for a straight person. So it is on the kink front, it is frustrating to fall for a vanilla person, unless you plan to convert them.

Even though we live in permissive times, I'm not sure how many vanilla women would consider your kinks tame and non-scary. Just to play devil's advocate here, and because the internet saved my life, I really think you should give lots and lots of credit to the likes of Fetlife and the offline networks and romances that result from it.

You are strongly encouraged to get kinky with someone who is not a professional. Strongly, strongly, strongly encouraged.

Re: Mitzi respectfully disagrees

[whipslave20]

I accept that not every woman in the vanilla would be able to take my kinks in stride, but the point I was making was that limiting things to people who are openly in the kink scene is not an especially good idea. I've heard plenty of kinksters who say "I never date vanilla people." I'm not willing to say that. I am pretty vanilla most of the time.

But I will admit that Fetlife and the like are good for the networks they begin. I'm just not inclined to use them to meet people directly.

[mirans]

Hey Whip,

Since splitting with my (online) Mistress of 8 years i've found that it's impossible to try and have the same sort of relationship with another person. Our relationship was so strong to us that noone else seems to measure up, and to be honest it's not fair to try to compare other Dom/mes to my exMistress.

i try to see it as an opportunity to explore different things now. Hopefully one day i will find someone i am compatible with so that i can have another great relationship. i'm pretty sure it will have kink of some manner in it, i just couldn't imagine being happy in a vanilla relationship.

cheers
mira

[whipslave20]

For me, I'm happy to let it happen when and if it happens. I'm in a pretty good place at the moment and I have no interest in changing that now.

[anonymous]

As you've said, I tend to think that most vanilla people have a somewhat kinky side to them...even if they don't know where or how to express it. The same kinks? Maybe not. But I'd wager most vanilla partners would find a way to accommodate the things that are important to you as long as both parties are prepared to learn together.

M

[whipslave20]

I also think it depends on what the things are. Simple things, even if intense, are probably easier to get into that some of the edgier activities, and most of the things I like can be intense, but remain simple.

I said to Mistress Jadis, "why would someone not want to try to accommodate your interests if they were important to you?"