Skeptical

[wild_rover]

Do people actually believe in the existence of soul mates anymore? Did such a notion ever actually exist? I don't know if I even believe in the traditional role of "love" and it's components

Comments

[deadkerouac]

There's a reason to be skeptical, especially when it comes to love, but hopefully it won't make you so cynical and questionable about everything that you fail to realize something potentially good right in front of you. Me, personally, I believe in soul mates, and I think that we could have more than one, maybe we can have three (gold, silver, bronze, if you want to think of them that way), maybe we can have twenty-three, who knows? Maybe only one of them is truly perfect, and the rest are great, good, so-so, etc. You know what I'm getting at.

I still haven't met mine yet. I hope to, one day. I'm optimistic. You should be too, doll :)

[wild_rover]

I used to be an optimist. I think I'm still fairly positive in perspective, just slightly more realistic than in the past. You're too right in alluding that one shouldn't ever get so discouraged they give up. On anything, not simply love. It's a challenge, as past experiences have their effects, but you're right.

Do you believe in romance?

[deadkerouac]

I believed in romance once. Back when I used to daydream about a particular girl I thought could be mine. Not that I'm bitter. I'm just not completely over it just yet.

I think I may be able to believe in it again.

[wild_rover]

Dictionary.com defines romance under these categories.

a. A love affair.
b. Ardent emotional attachment or involvement between people; love:
c. A strong, sometimes short-lived attachment, fascination, or enthusiasm for something

If this is accurate, that could describe many things. I'm noticing however, that it doesn't mention anything about being temporary or long-lasting.

Faith

[psychowomble]

if soul mates exist they don't require belief.
Personally I have faith, or at least want to have faith, and the desire for faith, and faith in desire, ensure a belief in their existance.

Re: Faith

[wild_rover]

I grudgingly admit you have a valid point.

Perhaps I've been struggling a little too much, spend too much time ruminating, with the subject of love and it's ever-lasting potential. It's been a long long time since I've been witness to that so I stopped thinking that anything could really last forever. Or at least till death.

How do you keep that faith of yours?

Re: Faith

[psychowomble]

my propensity for love is gestalt. Prescience of failure diminishes only their part, not mine.

[misseltoe]

I believe that everyone has a few soul mates. I found one of mine, though I surely wasn't looking. I think most people still believe in soul mates. Alteast, all of my friends do. But what do I know?

Also, your soul mate is perfect for you. I will say that I don't believe that it was fate that brought my guy to me. More like bad timing! Ha!

[wild_rover]

You feel your partner is your soul mate? I guess I should be offering my congratulations! :-) I'm glad all has worked so well for you; you are incredibly fortunate. Fortunate in that you were able to find something so wonderful and pay attention.

Did you know right away? How long have you been together?

Apparently I find the topic endlessly fascinating. Thanks for your thoughts!

[misseltoe]

Well, I knew the moment I met him that I was going to marry him. It wasn't something I was happy about, to be quite honest! I wasn't ready to meet him yet (I was 18) and I was interested in someone else

Sorry!

[misseltoe]

I didn't realize I wasn't logged in. That comment was me!

[ciardasully]

I do believe in soul mates, but whether we find them, that's up to timing and chance.

[wild_rover]

So you don't believe in destiny then. I think I understand. Have you ever met someone you thought could be your soul mate?

[ciardasully]

Actually I have, but it is taking it's slow time if it is going to happen, making me wonder if I am ever to be with my soul mate or just tortured.

[wild_rover]

Aye, I've questioned that as well. If the torture is worth it than perhaps I won't always be so cynical.

Best of luck!

Hmmmmmm

[ianhmoore]

Well it was said that the secret to love is not finding the perfect person, but finding the imperfect person to be perfect.

Do not mistake the true concept of love for some fairy tale romance. Love is hard work, love is dedication, love is blood sweat and tears. It's also the most rewarding thing you can have.

If you cannot find your perfect match, try using a lighter instead.

Ian

Re: Hmmmmmm

[wild_rover]

I'm too realistic to believe in fairy tales. Always have been. I never dreamed of a prince on a white horse. In fact, the idea kinda appalled me.

Nothing worth having is easy. But I don't know that I've ever discovered that fully rewarding, deeply moving, all-encompassing love at the end of the slogging. Does it exist? That's what I want to know.

One of the philosophy classes I took in my salad days defined love as the desiring of another's happiness and security over one's one. Is that too generic?

Why can I not cease thinking about these things?

Thanks for replying and entertaining my mental digressions - even after all this time. You're too kind.

?:O)

[ianhmoore]

There's many types of friends to have in this world, I'd like to believe I'm the one who'll be "always there if you need me". Although personally I'd prefare it to be "The incredibly rich and successful friend who happens to rule the universe..." ?;O