Pissiness

[wolfgirl9204]

I am really trying to figure out how an empty box of condoms got in the back of my car. It's SO not cool. And Mare was the one who found it, since she helped me clean out my car...dude I didn't even know what it was till I flipped it over and saw the picture on the back. So now I'm hearing "I knew you were cheating on me," and "Why don't you

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[xianara]

If she can't trust you, and if she seriously can't go a week without accusing you of something, it's probably not a healthy relationship.

Also, I find that when someone constantly is accusing you of something, it is usually what they themselves are most guilty of.

[myrdolph]

Okay. Sit her down and tell her you love her. Explain to her why you are with her and how much she means to you. Emphasize how much your relationship means to you, what it actually DOES for you. Explain that you would NEVER cheat on her, it isn't in your personality. You've never cheated on anyone(or at least to my knowledge) it just doesn't make sense to you why you would cheat on someone. You'd just have the courage to break up with her and get on with your life if the relationship was worth cheating on(which we already went over why it means so much to you, so obviously a+b=c and you love her, therefore the relationship is worth more to you than to cheat). You wouldn't sneak around her because that is chicken shit. Keep emphasizing that you love her. Explain you have no idea how in the hell these condoms got into your car, explain that it has you freaked out and paranoid about your neighbors(at least I would be

[moonlilli]

I think both of the above are valid points. It is entirly possible that she is throwing blame to avoid it herself. However, you should not assume the worst and it will certainly not help the situation (whether she's cheated or not) to start throwing accusations back (not that I think that's what Amy's suggesting).

Sarah has some good pointers for what to DO. Definately have some serious talks. Start by reassuring her. Let her know how much you care about her. Do not insinuate that the condom box is there b/c of her - Sarah's right, blame your neighbors or something, admit your bafflement.

But, yes, also find the root of this. This won't go away by itself. The issue won't go away when this episode is over. If she expects to marry you, there has to be trust. Otherwise you will find yourself defending yourself over and over.

[faeriebambi]

Happy birthday, angel! May the year ahead bring you an abundance of joy, laughter, and dreams-come-true!

Linda

p.s. Things okay on the homefront?