love

[x_rane_x]

you know the whole love thing? like that point in your relationship where you're ready to say those three little words? well what if everytime you felt it was natural and right and you couldn't wait to say it, something happened. something that made you question your feelings. something that hurt you in a different way that you weren't able to

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[jess_kan]

Addddrrriiieeennnn, if you love her then you love her. Does she have a problem getting with guys when she's smoking? If so, talk to her, TELL her it's either you or the weed. But if she's never done that before, then this is you being the jealous type. Don't ruin things just because you get a little iffy. I've been with Louie 2 1/2 years and i still wonder every now and then "what if he's actually doing this....." That's part of it, just don't let it get to you. Don't imagine things that aren't there, ya know? Don't stop something great.

[x_rane_x]

it's been a problem in the past, also got her in trouble at school.
but yeah maybe i am just imagining things that aren't there. hmm. i'll think about that...thanks

[alohafridayalex]

i don't know if an ultimatum is a good idea

[x_rane_x]

Could be...if it happens again

[lgoin]

honestly, is there some backstory with the dealer? if not, then why are you trippin', boo? i'm serious. some girls may like this or deem this acceptable, but this is something that i PERSONALLY detest, and have left people over. you need to trust her as is. having a relationship with someone is a gamble, and if you aren't willing to take the risk of getting hurt, then maybe you should reconsider. i hate to sound all "mom-like" here, but seriously. i also must say that if a girl feels better about herself when a guy is jealous over her, she's not worth dating because she herself has no self-worth.

[x_rane_x]

Nah, there isn't. Im just trippin cause she asked me to help her stop smoking, she was kicked out of U of C boulder for smoking weed in the dorms. So I kinda feel like I gotta be a dick to help her stop too. I definitely agree with the gamble part, and kinda just realized it. I don't think you're sounding mom like, more like a friend giving helpful advice which is why I posted this in the first place. thanks homieeee

[lgoin]

ah now it becomes clear! well if she wants you to help her stop, you do have the right to be a dick. it's called "tough love." as for an ultimatum, i wouldn't suggest that. feel free to use the "YOU ASKED FOR HELP, AND I'M LOOKING OUT FOR YOU. YOU GOT KICKED OUT OF COLLEGE FOR THIS, BLAH BLAH BLAH" stern lecture leisurely though. because i would. and when it comes to tough love, i'm a fucking asshole :)

[x_rane_x]

I think I've been enough of a dick to her so I let up on it. Im tired of acting like her dad, I need to be her boyfriend.