Aww, well first off you should give me a hug anyway, punk. I love you no matter what, and I personally think you are a cutie patootie. :)
I have been worried about you lately though, because I can tell you haven't been very happy. :( Has Brian always been lacking in the physical expression part or just since he hurt his back?
Whenever I'm around you guys I can tell that Brian does seem to care about you a lot. Although I can understand what an effect it can have on you if he doesn't like physical attention as much as you do. I was briefly with a person like that and it does make you feel like something is wrong with you, and that somehow if you were more attractive or whatever, they would be more physically attentive. But the reality is that it's not you at all, it's just how they are. Have you discussed this with him?
I hope that you feel better about stuffs soon, because I hate to think of my Jeffreypants being sad. *biggest of hugs*
Brian used to be more lovey-dovey. I think it's a combination of his back pain, the frequency with which we see each other, and my self-esteem issues relating to my weight. But every time I try to touch him, he complains about me holding him down, or makes a joke about wanting to get away. It's amazing how he can use being cute to actually be kinda cruel.
I have talked to him about it, and his standard answer when I ask him to act differently is "that's just how I am." It makes me really pissed off. I've tried to be cleaner and more conscientious in his house, I've tried to give him space when he asks for it-- but when I ask him for this, it's "just who he is". I think it's bullshit. It's not even a mentality; it's an action. If I told him to "stop being so stubborn", that'd be difficult. If I told him to hold me more, it's easy. It's an action. Just fucking do it, whether you want to or not. Just do it because it makes your boyfriend feel not disgusting for a while.
I agree: I've been in a relationship like that and it turns you on yourself. It was hurting my self-image, and about the relationship, he could care about me all he wanted but he was not affectionate. Through the whole thing I felt like I was emotionally starving. And it only got worse.
I would never do that again and I wouldn't recommend it for an affectionate person. He may care but this is not a small thing. :-( Sorry....
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I have been worried about you lately though, because I can tell you haven't been very happy. :( Has Brian always been lacking in the physical expression part or just since he hurt his back?
Whenever I'm around you guys I can tell that Brian does seem to care about you a lot. Although I can understand what an effect it can have on you if he doesn't like physical attention as much as you do. I was briefly with a person like that and it does make you feel like something is wrong with you, and that somehow if you were more attractive or whatever, they would be more physically attentive. But the reality is that it's not you at all, it's just how they are. Have you discussed this with him?
I hope that you feel better about stuffs soon, because I hate to think of my Jeffreypants being sad. *biggest of hugs*
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I have talked to him about it, and his standard answer when I ask him to act differently is "that's just how I am." It makes me really pissed off. I've tried to be cleaner and more conscientious in his house, I've tried to give him space when he asks for it-- but when I ask him for this, it's "just who he is". I think it's bullshit. It's not even a mentality; it's an action. If I told him to "stop being so stubborn", that'd be difficult. If I told him to hold me more, it's easy. It's an action. Just fucking do it, whether you want to or not. Just do it because it makes your boyfriend feel not disgusting for a while.
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I would never do that again and I wouldn't recommend it for an affectionate person. He may care but this is not a small thing. :-( Sorry....
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