Comments | xleste: Partner Vision: An Exercise in Clarity & Vulnerability

xleste

Partner Vision: An Exercise in Clarity & Vulnerability

Dec 18, 2008 23:37

I was talking to my friend Jon, who mentioned something somewhat audacious and gutsy that his wife did when she wanted to find a partner. She wrote up a “Soul Mate Vision” and THEN she emailed it to everyone she knew. He’d read it even before he went on a date with her so he knew what she was looking to create.

My first reaction was, “SERIOUSLY ( Read more... )

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radiantsun December 20 2008, 02:52:37 UTC

do you have an age range in mind?

xleste December 20 2008, 18:08:30 UTC

Under 40 on the upper end, and I've sworn off men born after 1980. ;)

hmmm... my "subject" is "subjective" tedidiah December 20 2008, 07:18:06 UTC

hiya gayle ( ... )

Re: hmmm... my "subject" is "subjective" xleste December 20 2008, 19:14:30 UTC

Are you really coming ot Justin's? :)
I'm planning on being there!

This is definitely not a checklist for a future mate. :) Though it is based on people I've actually met in life who do hold all these characteristcs. Rare, but definitely out there which heartens me. Alas, two are already married. :)

the snippets i adore... tedidiah December 20 2008, 07:41:11 UTC

these points just exploded in my mind:

> Comfortable with ambiguity (or consciously uncomfortable with ambiguity - like the ambiguity of this statement)

>> only you, gayle, could express such circular logic in a way that makes it the brass ring ;)

> Worship the Divine Feminine through me.
> Worship the Divine Masculine through him.

>> i love that! where does that come from? (and yeah, i've heard the terms before in various pieces of literature or escape, but never in a list like this)... i truly believe most of us desire this, but most don't even understand we do, much less understand how to incorporate it into our intimate relationships... it really IS about WORSHIP... bold of you to choose the word...

Re: the snippets i adore... xleste December 20 2008, 19:13:08 UTC

Added "Practicing the wound of love" from a book - http://www.impassionata.com/2008/09/26/falling-silent/

Added a couple things but the only list I think I'm updating is the one on my actual blog - funny that it's still evolving, but the essence is nailed down!

This man onemermaid December 22 2008, 17:33:25 UTC

If this man you meet has a best friend who also inhabits these qualities, please introduce him to me (well maybe in a year)! I love that you put this list together. I think it will help, as you date, to know who isn't for you. Love to you.