It is Saturday night and I have time to update. Why you ask? Simply because I feel like shit, cannot even leave my couch, so I cannot make it to the parties. On to other stuff
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Break away from that jerk and find some friends who treat you - and their selves - with respect.
Always avoid people who want to constantly get obliterated... there is a reason, and you don't want to have anything to do with it. Be happy you don't feel this way.
So you are the designated savior for friends in trouble? Bit of a caretaker? You should be proud of that. Would you prefer to be on the other end? Why aren't you? I think you know.
Re: Hi therexxlizziexxNovember 8 2005, 03:59:08 UTC
Yeah, I know there are reasons why people are like that. But even though it almost sets yourself up for failure, I sometimes wish that I can be the one to save them.
I think that I am not on the other end, because I believe that nobody should have to bother with me.
I have a question. Do you ever update a livejournal?
Re: Hi therexxlizziexxNovember 8 2005, 04:53:09 UTC
I was always wondering that. Well, if you ever need someone to chat with, I'm right here. I feel horrible that you read my posts and offer your advice, and I can do nothing in return. I hope your life does become less hectic so you do have time - even if it is just to relax.
I know what you mean about the independence. It seems that it is very hard for me to stray from it, even though I know it isn't the healthiest thing for myself.
Sounds like you don't have a whole lot of friends who listen to you when they should be giving you support.
Take this info from someone who grew up around "asshole drunks:" They are parasites. Just as most parasites don't care what damage they do to their host, so long as they get what they want, in the same vein, some of your friends sound no different. I'm not saying it's wrong to lend a hand, how can I? Friendships are built by "give and take." But how much giving is there to taking? If that "give and take" is as out of balance as your post seems to indicate, then it isn't much of a friendship, is it?
And being alone with some extremely horny drunk dude? I'll be honest, for a young girl like you, that wasn't wise -- he might not have backed off after you rejected his advances, and you would have been in real trouble
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Yeah. Sometimes it gets frustrating for me, because I know that I offer myself way too much to others. But I hate seeing others in pain. I couldn't expect anyone to give back to me. I don't know.
And yes, I guess I was real lucky. Even though he was a friend, something could happen. And I wasn't really thinking about that at the time, I just wanted him to make it back to his apartment okay.
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Break away from that jerk and find some friends who treat you - and their selves - with respect.
Always avoid people who want to constantly get obliterated... there is a reason, and you don't want to have anything to do with it. Be happy you don't feel this way.
So you are the designated savior for friends in trouble? Bit of a caretaker? You should be proud of that. Would you prefer to be on the other end? Why aren't you? I think you know.
Find your way Liz. Be ok.
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I think that I am not on the other end, because I believe that nobody should have to bother with me.
I have a question. Do you ever update a livejournal?
Thank you so much for the posts. It means a lot.
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I know what you mean about the independence. It seems that it is very hard for me to stray from it, even though I know it isn't the healthiest thing for myself.
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Take this info from someone who grew up around "asshole drunks:" They are parasites. Just as most parasites don't care what damage they do to their host, so long as they get what they want, in the same vein, some of your friends sound no different. I'm not saying it's wrong to lend a hand, how can I? Friendships are built by "give and take." But how much giving is there to taking? If that "give and take" is as out of balance as your post seems to indicate, then it isn't much of a friendship, is it?
And being alone with some extremely horny drunk dude? I'll be honest, for a young girl like you, that wasn't wise -- he might not have backed off after you rejected his advances, and you would have been in real trouble ( ... )
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And yes, I guess I was real lucky. Even though he was a friend, something could happen. And I wasn't really thinking about that at the time, I just wanted him to make it back to his apartment okay.
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