giving criticism

Oct 04, 2007 11:56

I wanted to repost this (as it is part of my ZEN HABITS feed ( Read more... )

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pundigrion October 4 2007, 19:07:02 UTC
The word "counseling" does that for me. In the military you get "counseling statements". Theoretically you are supposed to get get periodic, "Hey buddy, this is how we think you're doing, what you're doing great and what we'd like you to work on ones", but in reality they always skip those since they are too lazy to bother so the only ones they ever give are the "bad" ones. My employment agency does the same thing.

I did like that installment. Sometimes I've wondered why I am keeping the feed since many of the suggestions seem impractical for people that are not in executive positions, but now and then there's a good one like this that makes me recall.

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yoopie October 4 2007, 19:21:09 UTC
no problem

I get these updated to my LJ daily and each day is something different. Some of the stuff applies to me..some doesn't

here is the website if you are interested
http://zenhabits.net/
I have it as a daily feed on my LJ

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twinmind October 4 2007, 19:24:17 UTC
Hey - this is good. I have been trying to tell my husband that he "criticizes" his guys too much at work. This will be a good article for him to read.

This was good for me too. It's a teaching tool for me to look at when discussing direction and instruction to my children and that they are not bad... their actions are what's bad.

Good Stuff!
Thanks!!

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bellybalt October 4 2007, 19:27:23 UTC
They assume you’re attacking them.

They assume they’re right.

These both are me. So me.

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yoopie October 4 2007, 20:48:49 UTC
I equate criticism with being attacked which is obviously WRONG but as mentioned, I was raised in a noisy, accusatory environment.

The funny thing about me is
I never assume I am right...like EVER..which in itself is a bit on the self deprecating(?) side and I need to assume I am not right or wrong...I just *AM* and listen

I just know that I have things I would like to address with my family and I would like to take THIS zen approach and hope for the best.

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jef182 October 4 2007, 20:24:16 UTC
Is there a section for "do nothing directly- rather make anonymous passive-aggressive rants to "that guy on the bike on Alberta" in Damnportlanders" as an effective feedback tool? ;)

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yoopie October 4 2007, 20:46:06 UTC
I don't think this could be applied to DP at all...I mean some folks on that list would get it and others would just bitch/rant/moan even harder

In my opinion...written/typed conversation is more open to interpretation than speaking conversation...therefore I believe that is why many things get very eruptive/explosive-ish on DP as its written stuff

ok, there
I have met my SMART quota for the day =P

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