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[snickermel]

Has anyone had their husband come back from deployment and NOT "live happily ever after"?

It's not that I'm not happy he's home, but the ways he changed while deployed are really tripping me out.

Just wondering if this was happening to anyone else. . .

Melissa

Comments

[asitaraja]

They change alot while they are gone. It will take a period of time for things to get better. Just give it some time.

[snickermel]

It was REALLY bad when he first got home, then after about a month things normalized (our version of normal anyway), but since then things have gone steadily downhill. I'm just sad that my best friend. . . doesn't even like me half the time any more. Or something. grrrr

[coolest_mommy]

My husband is changing for the better....hopefully yours is the same, I heard they are very grumpy and quiet when they are back.

[snickermel]

Some ways he's changed ARE for the better. But the ones that are worse are the super annoying/frustrating/make me want to run away and move to China ones. =)

[coolest_mommy]

i feel you! my husband had those before he left to iraq, i felt like kicking him in the balls from time to time. I think now he's been such a good boy and has realized many things that FINALLY I can feel better about

[coolest_mommy]

do you mind me asking what has he done different now?

[get0veryourself]

Yeah mine was quiet for a few weeks, and now he is better than ever.

[snickermel]

I can handle moodiness, but this is like a TOTAL personality chnge. I'm glad it worked out for you!

[army_wife51b]

mine is still gone and i was wondering the if the same thing could happen to us, but then i realized that i have changed a lot too...so i believe it is a trying time for both people. he's been away to a very stressful place, and you have been holding down the home front, which is equally stressful as well.
so don't worry, you'll both eventually sink into your old routine again--or make a new one.
just think of it as when you guys first got married...i know that was hard for my husband and i but we got used to each other.

[army_wife51b]

oh yeah--one more thing: is that yuna in your icon? i absolutely love it! i am a big FF fan...are you?

[snickermel]

I think that's the hardest thing. . . we were only married for six months before he deployed, but we just had our two year anniversary. So basically we skipped a year of being married, plus he missed most of my daughter's first year.
You are right, I changed too. . . hmmmm. . .
Thanks!
Mel

[snickermel]

And yes that is Yuna. . . I am the biggest FF geek, but I love it!

[luvn_my_airman]

Just remember they go through a lot on deployments....not to give false hope or anything but sometimes it changes them dramatically to the point they can never be who they were. They ned space....let him know you are their for him if he needs you, dont try to crowd him. I know you are happy he is back...just realize what all he has been going through. You arent alone in this...it happens all the time...stress of deployments is sometimes too hard to bear. Anyways keep your chin up...everything will work out how its supposed to!

[snickermel]

I think he will never be who he was again. . .I will probably eventually get used to it. . .Some stuff went down on my end during his deployment that changed me dramatically as well and we just CLASH so badly on EVERYTHING- and he hurts my feelings on purpose now, which he would NEVER think of doing before.

*puts chin up* =)