ANON AND SO SCREENEDserendipity_senMarch 8 2011, 04:51:33 UTC
So I have this boyfriend that I really like, but we haven't done it yet, and it's been forever. He sleeps a lot (IT'S NOT BECAUSE I SUCK OKAY?!), and I've tried lots of stuff already.
Re: ANON AND SO SCREENEDz2ineMarch 8 2011, 05:00:09 UTC
Maybe it's because you don't suck...
Anyway, here are some ideas.
1. I'm guessing you've already tried caffeine. See if fruit helps. Apples especially have lots of natural sugar to provide short bursts of energy. Hopefully you can use that burst to make stuff happen. 2. Maybe a light exercise to get your blood going first. Nothing that would make him too tired. 3. Make him laugh. Try a little tickle if he starts to fall asleep. Be playful. 4. Some music? 5. Weird, but I do this during late night WoW missions. Pulling on your earlobes can tug you out of sleepiness. Do stuff to his ears I guess. 6. Try a location that its hard to sleep in.
I really really like my boyfriend. A lot. We have a lot of fun and we've been together for a while now...I kind of want to do more with him, but every time we get anywhere close to more I fall asleep. It's not like I wanna! He just makes me really comfortable and when I'm comfortable I sleep.
Given what I've heard from the other side... Don't let him make you comfortable until you've made him comfortable first. After, you can both fall asleep together perfectly happy.
Don't try to do it until you've had success at other things. When it does come time for sex, well, I doubt you can really sleep through that. I don't know much about gay sex, but it sounds like it hurts, at least at first. Even if you do fall asleep, your boyfriend is still with you, so I'd guess he's pretty understanding about your problem. Don't worry so much.
Re: Anonymous daze_dreamerMarch 9 2011, 03:20:42 UTC
Make him comfortable? I think he already should be, usually when we do stuff we're in the same bed. Unless maybe he thinks the bed is uncomfortable?! ;; I never even thought that maybe he likes a firmer mattress. I always like things super soft so that it feels like I'm sleeping on clouds.
Can a kiss define a relationship? I’ve always thought it was wrong to assume a kiss means you’re automatically exclusive but how can I ask without actually asking. The person I’ve kissed is a good person and someone I have a long standing history with but as far as being romantically involved I’m not sure I would satisfy him. I’m also sure he might be involved with someone on the island who better suits his needs
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If you've been friends with this guy from high school, I'm sure he also knows that you're not really into just fooling around. Give this guy more credit. I'm sure you have a reason for liking him besides his (presumably)good looks.
So yeah, I'm going to say talk to him. Don't assume you're not good enough for what you want. Make a nice set up. Tell him that you like him, and want to be exclusive. If he doesn't feel the same way, then you have your answer. The state of "limbo" seems to be torturing you. If he feels awkward for ten minutes because of your confession, oh well, it serves him right.
So there's this guy I like and sometimes I think he likes me ... and sometimes I think he hates me ... and sometimes I think he's trying to hate me but secretly loving it ... and I find all of these hot.
But then there's this girl ... and every time she appears this guy just drops everything and goes after her. I don't know if I want him to turn her down for me once in a while or for her to ask me out too once in a while.
It's not unnatural to find that kind of conflict hot. But it does sound that if he wants you, he needs to consider your feelings too, and not just hers. Confront him about this, and tell him to pull his head out of his ass before he loses you all together.
I'm a bit confused though. You're okay with him liking her too? Is it some kind of weird threesome?
Do whatever you guys normally do together and bring it up at an opportune moment. An opportune moment can be a silence, or if something related to the issue comes up, or even when you just feel confident. Don't bring it up when you're not alone, or when the third party is around. That would be disaster.
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Got any ideas on how I can finally get lucky?~
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Anyway, here are some ideas.
1. I'm guessing you've already tried caffeine. See if fruit helps. Apples especially have lots of natural sugar to provide short bursts of energy. Hopefully you can use that burst to make stuff happen.
2. Maybe a light exercise to get your blood going first. Nothing that would make him too tired.
3. Make him laugh. Try a little tickle if he starts to fall asleep. Be playful.
4. Some music?
5. Weird, but I do this during late night WoW missions. Pulling on your earlobes can tug you out of sleepiness. Do stuff to his ears I guess.
6. Try a location that its hard to sleep in.
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1. Tried it.
2. That won't work.
3. Tried ittt.
4. Tried itttt. He's hot when he dances though.
5. ....I'm gonna try that.
6. That definitely won't work.
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Then if all fails, just say me first this time.
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Describe the circumstances.
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I really really like my boyfriend. A lot. We have a lot of fun and we've been together for a while now...I kind of want to do more with him, but every time we get anywhere close to more I fall asleep. It's not like I wanna! He just makes me really comfortable and when I'm comfortable I sleep.
What If we do do it and I fall asleep!?
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Given what I've heard from the other side... Don't let him make you comfortable until you've made him comfortable first. After, you can both fall asleep together perfectly happy.
Don't try to do it until you've had success at other things. When it does come time for sex, well, I doubt you can really sleep through that. I don't know much about gay sex, but it sounds like it hurts, at least at first. Even if you do fall asleep, your boyfriend is still with you, so I'd guess he's pretty understanding about your problem. Don't worry so much.
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So yeah, I'm going to say talk to him. Don't assume you're not good enough for what you want. Make a nice set up. Tell him that you like him, and want to be exclusive. If he doesn't feel the same way, then you have your answer. The state of "limbo" seems to be torturing you. If he feels awkward for ten minutes because of your confession, oh well, it serves him right.
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I suppose if anyone knew anything it would be him.
What do you mean by a nice set-up? Wouldn't that makes things more un-natural? I'm not exactly the type to set up a candle light dinner or anything.
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By that I mean whatever you guys do to make you comfortable. Maybe play tennis or have a dessert, doesn't matter.
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So there's this guy I like and sometimes I think he likes me ... and sometimes I think he hates me ... and sometimes I think he's trying to hate me but secretly loving it ... and I find all of these hot.
But then there's this girl ... and every time she appears this guy just drops everything and goes after her. I don't know if I want him to turn her down for me once in a while or for her to ask me out too once in a while.
Are relationships supposed to be this confusing?
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It's not unnatural to find that kind of conflict hot. But it does sound that if he wants you, he needs to consider your feelings too, and not just hers. Confront him about this, and tell him to pull his head out of his ass before he loses you all together.
I'm a bit confused though. You're okay with him liking her too? Is it some kind of weird threesome?
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How do you start that conversation?
Well, I like her too. So complaining at him for that would be kind of hypocritical.
Confused Peach
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Do whatever you guys normally do together and bring it up at an opportune moment. An opportune moment can be a silence, or if something related to the issue comes up, or even when you just feel confident. Don't bring it up when you're not alone, or when the third party is around. That would be disaster.
So a weird threesome. Got it.
Z
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