Feel the Suckage

[zen_bastard]

So, yeah, this sucks. Sometimes I'm OK, and then all of a sudden I feel like my heart has been ripped out. I've been feeling sick to my stomach all day, too. Maybe I'm actually sick. Maybe it's psychosomatic. Maybe it's just that I only got about 3 hours of fitful sleep last night

Comments

[anonymous]

everyone i know who went through parental divorce did so early in their lives, and it scarred them, as all family trauma will scar a child. There is really no way to avoid this. But doing the best thing for your own emotional well being will provide the best possible example for your child; and whether they realize it or not, this will limit the overall impact.

In my case i watched my parents stay together for 25 years, even though it was painfully obvious to me from about the age of 7 that my mother didn't love my father. You would be surprised how much a child will observe. I knew more about it than my father did, unfortunately for him. A divorce at an early stage would have been traumatic for me, i'm sure, but watching my mother suffer and my father look a fool did quite another kind of damage. It left me with no understanding of how to give my own love in a healthy manner.

You can do better for your daughter by allowing both yourself and andrea to find your way to happiness in the long run.

[zen_bastard]

I disagree. I think divorce is a selfish choice, putting the desires of the parent above the needs of the child. Note the terminology there, every word was chosen carefully.

A mature person is able to choose to find happiness even in a difficult situation. There is nothing dangerous or abusive in our relationship, so there is no real reason for breaking up our family other than selfish desires.