Friends

[zendej]

How do you define a true friendship

Comments

[fangoram]

You should know who's a real friend in your gut. That's how I decide who's a real friend and who's just an aquaintence. Because of that, I can consider some people very good friends after a very short time of knowing them, and some people only aquaintances despite seeing them all the time. I've only been wrong on one occasion, but that was because she was hot :D

[zendej]

if she was hot, that's not about friendship, but lust. ;o)

[mesangecoeur]

This is 99% of all the friendships I have ever had. I actually only have ONE friend in the entire city of Orlando.

And yes, it is depressing.

[zendej]

that's sad and i don't understand why people are like that. anybody you ask want real friends, but don't want to do anything to become one. Sucks!

[mesangecoeur]

I think most people are simply too obsessed with themselves and their own life to worry about caring for others.

Like, with me, I sincerely don't want to be in a romantic relationship with someone because I have a lot of my own issues, and am trying to get my life together. I think being with someone would hinder that, and so I remain single.
I think on a subconscious level a lot of people are like that with friendships.

[zendej]

actually being single and trying to sort things out doesn't always work. If your life is really messed up, you might wanna want to have a strong shoulder to lean on and somebody to talk to.

[thistleharlquin]

i call those my party friends... they only call me to party and if i call them they wont answer unless they want to party

[zendej]

yeah, that's a good name for them. The only thing they are good for is to party. :(

[ohhverrated]

you can usually tell who a true friend is. It may be hard but you can. In a friendship you aren't supposed to be giving 80% and receiving nothing at all. that's not how it works. so if you are in a situation like that, don't waste your time with those people. they are practically using you. there are always better people for [[you]] out there.

[zendej]

it's just a matter of finding them, but what if i won't be good enough for them?

[ohhverrated]

don't even question yourself if you will be good enough. you just need to find people more like you. people you have stuff in common with. then you should never worry about if you are "good" enough. =]
and like you said.
it's just in a matter of time.

[fire_soul_girl]

Yeah, that happens all the time. But the most depressing is that lots of people get the wrong idea about what you actually think of them and suddenly go and sulk if something's not the way they want it to be because they're sure you did it on purpose, to annoy them.

[zendej]

people who do that are retarded and i would try to talk to them once and if they don't wanna listen, i stop waisting my time with them. I'd rather invest time and emotions into somebody who cares.

[fire_soul_girl]

Well, yes, but sometimes they're interesting and intelligent and witty - along with being bad-tempered and getting on your nerves. And so you're faced with a huge dilemma....
And sometimes they happen to be your relatives. That IS a disaster.

[zendej]

then you don't have much of a choice. unfortunately.
you can try slapping them, see if that works. ;)